Welcome messages not so welcoming here....

[Ranieri]

"Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me..."

Ive joined a few groups here in Mom Cafe and Im

truly surprised at how not really welcoming they

actually are.

No bashing, no lieing and on and on.

We are all grown women after all.  And we do need to be

more excepting of each other and ALLOW for our differences.

We are on earth to learn and grow in love.

What matters most?

Relationships

Love

1. Loving God or Buddha or Goddess, whom ever you pray to.

2. And loving people.

Even if you cant remember the 10 commandments or your

moral code of ethics from your religion, if you follow those 2 rules you cant go wrong.

We cant learn love in isolation.

We are given "family responsibilities" to learn just this.

We are given frustrating, irritating, imperfect people in our family and friednships to learn this.  And we are given a lifetime to learn it because it is so important!  Because it is not an easy task to be patient and open and caring and allow for our differences and KNOW, NOT TO TAKE THEM PERSONALLY.  Not to be so damn self-centered!

We are not God-like, we are not even Gods.  The world does not revolve around our very being and our lives.  Come down off your high place you give your self in the world and get down here with all of us.  Where you were born were we learn and grow in love to be honest and open and share and be gentle and patient with each other.

We need to be in community.  Yes it really does take a village to raise a child , yes Virginia, and it takes one for the rest of your life.

In fellowship with one another, we should be honest and open with each other, we should not point the fingers and blame, or whisper and gossip, we need to be open and allowing.

When you are allowing in groups and in life and make sure we practice just those behaviours, then there is no need to gossip or lie.  And if one of us slips up, then we need to be there to be willing to patiently hold their hand and gently guide them back on path, on course again.

I would hope we practice these same lessons in our dealing with our children too.  If they lie do you freak out, yell, ground them.  Or do you gently talk to them and steering them back on course.  Your children will do as you do, period.  And if you are so condemning then they will be too.  With you and the world, and to expect them to do otherwise and be shocked is not a good mommy and daddy or parent of.  If you are lieing and cheating and stealing or bashing in front of your child they will do it too.

Conflict.

Conflict is healthy to some degree.  To the degree that we dont hold grudges or resent each other over it.  TO the degree that if it is going on in our groups, we dont get involved if it doest involve us or choose up sides. 

To get involved, if it doesnt involve you, only to encourage and gently remind us that we are all women and we are all on earth for the same thing.  Yes we are!

Conflict or feeling not a part of is normal.  We learn by our mistakes not by being perfect.  And if you feel you've stopped making mistakes, that you are so perfect, I will tell you you are not growing and to again put down your defenses and be allowing of yourself and of others.

In todays world, there is violence and hate and suicide and bombings and shoot outs at schools and  the sort and more

vehement things we are doing to ourselves and to our brothers and sisters.  And it all boils down to not being allowing, not living and growing in community with each other.

I use the words of Yoda herw,"You are either doing or  not doing," there is no in between. 

You cant be allowing of some people and not of others.  You allow all or you allow none.  There are no special circumstances that allow you to act or behave in any other manner but in love with another human being.  Especially one mom to another!

Especially woman to woman!  We have been given the special gift of nurturer and care givers of this world and of life.

So you see its not Gods fault for allowing us free will to experience each other and for allowing hate and violence and children and moms to suffer at the hands of others.  Its OUR RESPONSIBILITY to take care of each other, there really is a brotherhood of man, but so many do not practice it, let alone passing it forward.

We fear being laughed at, being talked about, being seen as weak for demonstrating just this kind of love and support.  We fear someone taking advantage of us, we fear we will go without.  We dont get involved when we seen a mugging or a beating in public, but we are so appalled at a school bully.  Which is it?  You cant have it both ways.  You are practicing love and sharing every day with every one or you are not.  There is no in between.  You cant have road rage for one person and have open arms when you are at church.   Energy, us, life, our being just doesnt work that way.  And you may argue that point all you want that there are special acceptions to every rule or for just you and yours or your point of view.  Im here to tell you and to gently remind you that no, it is not.  No it is not  ALL ABOUT YOU.

You remember that show, "Married with Children?"

I can remember watching that show and wondering to myself what a great show about accepting your neighbors.  Why if I lived next door to Al and Peg Bundy I would not be their friends at all.  I would find it hard to be their friends at all.  Peg and her neighbor did just that, they were there for each other no matter what, no matter what weird or indecent thing  was going on in their lives.  And peg and al and their kids stuck together, by each other no matter what?

We are not perfect ourselves, none of us.

We are not any of us superior to another being on this planet.

We all need love and we all need support and we all are strangers in a foreign land at some point needing help

for our families financially or in what ever.

By the grace of God or whatever your religion, it can be given to you or taken away from you at any point.

And yes we need to stand by Kate with her children of 8 and not say she is in the public yes she deserves it or what did she expect. Stop the bashing of each other.  Why as women are we so hard on one another? I guess I go back to my point, so hard on every one.

Why do we find fun at bashing hollywood stars, in particular Lindsay Lohan or Paris Hilton or any one in the public eye?

Or even for crimes?

Do we really assume that we know better?

Do we really assume we are better?

Back to my very 1st sentence...

"Im starting with the man in the mirror.

Im asking him to change his ways."

So can our welcome message talk about what the group is about?  Can our welcome message encourage friendship, fellowship, relationships, learning to grow in love and be encouraging with each other?  Can our groups and friendships here be about supporting each other as moms in todays stressed to death world? 

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