Tomas's room angers me

[Momma_Halo]

Three weeks ago I leaned against his door jam and peered into my boys room. It was plain with mix matched posters, toys stuffed in his closet and leaking out, and no bed, no furniture, and nothing that says a child lives there.

You see my husband and I are struggling students in the medical field and in Idaho it is really hard to find a job. Plus the health and welfare told us to "deal" with it and refused us help. We had to annoy them to get 170 dollars of food stamps and Tomas to get on Medicaid. And the only reason we have internet (which hasn't been paid this month or last) and our home is unemployment that only pays for the house and a few bills. My mother in law has been helping us with the internet so we can finish school work because when you are in school for medical you need the internet to do loads of research for loads of homework and research papers.

So when my son accidently pee'd on his bed more than once since we couldn't afford expensive night time training pants we had to throw out the mattress and he didn't even have a bed. We never could afford a chest of drawers or a toy chest either. And one day I broke down at my mothers house and told her how upset I was about the whole thing.

She told me times are tough right now and everyone needs help. And since I am so stubborn and I hate asking for help she offered her help. She bought me paint for his room since it needed to be patched up from previous renters and it is a lovely shade of white with a hint of green tint. We had the carpets cleaned with the help of my mother in law. My mom bought me a year's worth of diapers so he doesn't wet the bed. My mother in law gave us a bed and mattress's. My mom is buying Transformer bedding, Tomas had a few Transformer posters, and for ten dollars I bought some Transformer wall decals that I can take off with no problems. My mom also gave him curtains and a new blinds.

I went to Savers and for 8 dollars found a plastic organizer with 7 drawers and it works perfectly for his clothes. And by just giving my son a room and get him off the couch has been a real blessing. The look on his face has been worth it all especially when he begs me to help me put the Transformer stickers on the wall.

I have been really down with all this no job situation. Jobs are just not wanting to hire me and when I am hired they hire me as a temp to hire and then fire me before I have rights to unemployment and medical. So I feel used and abused. It makes me cry but it gives me drive to keep working harder and possibly going for things I wouldn't have the guts to do. Like finish my writing in hopes to be published or work on costumes and enter into a contest.

It has also helped me to really research my options to find low cost things like clothing, furniture, and Ebay lol. It has also taught me how to budget and even cook better. We can't afford to eat out so I have been buying a lot of those cooking magazines like "Tastes of Homes" and learning how to make food I can use as leftovers.

Things are hard but it will get better soon. I know I just have to hold on. Next year will be better I just know it. And it also pushed me to learn how to sew and all of Tomas's Christmas presents will be hand made. I can't wait to start on his quilt!

[Betsy858]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 1:06 PM

Everyone is struggling,but you are going to school and doing better for yourself. Family is everything and family will help you out when able.

[meandmyshadow]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 1:09 PM

I hope things are better for you soon.  It sounds lith Tomas's room suits him very well

[Momma_Halo]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 1:20 PM

I know, but sometimes we feel like we are the only one's going through it. Especially when you are parents. My family is getting better and they are more enthused to help out now. We are just learning how to be a family again after my mom divorced my horrible step father. But that is another story.

I am very pleased with this room and they say green is a calming color so I thought it was a perfect color for a childs room.

(Original Poster)

[Jodie118]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 1:33 PM

I'm so glad he's set up back in his own room, that must have been disheartening.  And glad that you're getting support from your family, it's nice to have that to lean on.  Just for future reference when your little guy trains to sleep diaper-less at night.  I bought a $8.00 mattress storage cover and put it on my son's mattress.  He's doing really well, but occasionally has accidents.  The cover is thin vinyl, so it wipes clean, and it keeps his mattress from getting ruined.  Best of luck to you and your family, and lots of love!

[veg4animals2006]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 1:49 PM

I know how you feel. Without the help of my parents my family would most likely be in a shelter right now.. we barely make enough to cover food and gas (since we've had "issues" with contacting our family support worker since we moved here 5+ months ago). I had to quit school to start working and even that barey helps.

I'm glad you guys have a support system. It really makes all the difference in getting back on your feet.

[tericared]

Nov. 5, 2009 at 12:12 AM

Things will be better.......Glad to hear that you let them help you...