don't touch me!

[kozatad]

first of all, i have been diagnosed with postpartum depression. i was on pills for it, but they all made me so sick i had to go the er. i've been off the pills for almost two months now. i'm not having nearly as many problems with life anymore. i don't think about hurting myself or the baby, i can get through most work days without crying in the bathroom, i'm no longer so wracked with emotion that i can't do anything.

but i don't want my husband to touch me. i'm ok with hugs and cuddles, but i don't want to kiss, and i don't want any sexual touching whatsoever. i'm fine helping him out, but i don't want him to do anything to me. this hasn't always been an issue. even on the pills and when the depression was really bad, i could handle sex ok. i had a lot of physically problemes, like seriously painful intercourse, but we did what we could and had some semblance of a sex life. it wasn't as often as he'd like, but we were able to be intimate.

the last couple of weeks, though, i don't want anything to do with sex or anything remotely sexual. i don't think i'm "touched out" because i'm at work all day and so don't have the baby hanging on me. i have also noticed that i avoid shaking hands or other touching at work. i don't know what to do. the dr says there is nothing physically wrong with me, even when it hurt too much to do anything, she said i was just too tense and to use more k.y.

i'm starting to worry that he is going to either leave or cheat on me. he is a very sexual person, and we had a very active sex life before i got to the "feeling like a beached whale" stage of pregnancy.

Tags: depression, postpartum, postpartum depression, sex, husband, help, sad, tired

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[sati769leigh]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 4:18 PM

i would suggest some counceling or therapy from a licensed therapist hon. try and figure out what is giong on inside you

[rousefam5]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 4:40 PM

Do you have insurance.....some psychotherapy perhaps? Is this your first child? How old is the baby now? Did you breastfeed, if so, when did you stop or have you stopped? Your hormones could be WAY out of whack. Don't beat yourself up. I too didn't want my hubby touching me after I had my kids. I looked at my body totally different after I had kids. I can't say that I will ever be the "sex kitten" I once was. Im a mother now and that changed my perception of how I view myself and my sexuality.

[kozatad]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 4:48 PM

i'm breastfeeding. it's my first baby. she is 9 months old. i have some counseling options, i get 5 sessions per "issue". my dh is very against therapy, and i've been to a therapist twice in the past (2 5 visit sessions) and it didn't resolve anything.

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