My sister thinks she'd be better raising my child..

[slm047]

my sister constantly criticizes me over what my dd does. dd is a year and a half and of course likes to put stuff in her mouth. my sister bitches and tells me how ridiculous it is. we're not talking about small things that she could choke on, it's her toys that i actually clean on a regular basis.

and not only that, she bitches about my dd having a bottle and paci at bedtime. she really doesn't understand how it is though because she just doesn't HAVE CHILDREN. urg.. really irritates me when people think they know how to raise your child esp. when they have none themselves..

she also makes remarks like, "I would never do that as a parent. You need to teach her better."

[octavia137r]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 10:13 PM

So sorry to hear that sweetie, she will understand when  she has children of her own that it is just not always so simple to raise children . I have 5 kids and I know how things don`t always run as smoothly as we would like it to. At the end of the day its your child and you just be the best mom you can be!!! God bless

[slm047]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 10:14 PM

Thanks. It's nice to hear that sometimes. My husband and I love our daughter tremendously and do anything and everything to keep her a healthy, happy girl.

I don't know how you do it with 5 children but GOO mama!! I always knew woman were superheros =)

(Original Poster)

[jdanielle82]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 10:22 PM

My sis was SUPER critical when ds was younger.  She just had no clue!  Now she lives with a guy with a kid and even though Ellie had a mom, she has to step up in a lot of ways.  She gives me a lot more credit now.  I hope someday your sis will look at you and say "I never gave you credit for how hard it is to do this". When mine did, I cried!

[Midnite00]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 12:57 AM

My dd dad before children would say that he thought it was stupid when parents would drive there babies just to get them to sleep.  we went on vaction once to his family.  My DD really was a mess.  Crying screaming and nothing calmed her down.  I told him it was the long drive and the excitement she was having hard time calming down.  He decided to go to the other grandparents house (the one we where at the grandmother was sick) it was a 5 block drive.  When we turned the wrong way I asked what was he doing. He replied being a hypocrite!! It put her to sleep with  the  longer drive......

Sometimes they learn that they would do things they never thought they do after they have kids.  I just smile when people do that to me, laughing inside going can I remember you said that?  Oh yea one day she will think Dang it didn't look this hard!! LOL

 

[LisaLulu]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 7:53 AM

I have a sister who has lots of ideas of how to parent (no children of course).  Do you know what I said to her?  I said "enjoy this time of being a perfect parent, because when you actually have them, you'll be as imperfect as the rest of us..."

[RhondaVeggie]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 8:25 AM

My sister is the same way.  She doesn't have kids so she just doesn't get it.  I don't expect her to ever apologize or admit that she's wrong in any way (I've known her too long for that) but if she ever has kids I'm going to get great satisfaction observing their imperfections.  

[CheshireHope]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 9:21 AM

my siblings do that.

i had put my oldest in the corner of hitting his brother(just a few months old) and my sister pulled him out to watch tv with her! she believes that its possible for a mother of 3 to run in three different directions at the local park which has a huge lake in the center and no safety guards(fences or anything) around it or the playground itself..

some people won't understand till they have kids.

[boogernoodle]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 9:43 AM

I remember having ALOT of super ideals that seemed really easy unti I had to put them into play.

[withastud..]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 9:50 AM

sounds like YOU  are doing a good job...tell her if she would like to parent have some kids of her own!

[Pollymom]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 1:07 PM

Well, I think your sister is in for a rude awakening when she has her own children. Those people usually are the ones who get hit the hardest...

Just make sure to rub it in with a few little "I told you so's..." LOL