What should I do? Moral dilemma!

[busybee76]

I am so devastated! I just found evidence that my best friend is having an affair!

She has been avoiding me alot lately and I wasn't sure what was going on...someone suggested she was avoiding me so she wouldn't slip about it and then I would tell my Husband who would then tell her Husband since they're also best friends.

She's been telling me they're having problems, she isn't sure what she wants anymore, blah blah blah....she even tried to tell me she found suspicious text messages on his phone recently implying that HE was screwing around.

Right now, both of our Hubby's are out of town together helping her MIL move. She has avoided me like the plague since they've been gone....VERY suspicious. Usually we're inseparable.

Well about a week ago she went to Texas to visit a friend of theirs. It seemed kinda fishy to me but whatever. Well today I found pics on one of our friends FB pages of their trip...one of them commented on a Guys photo album so being nosy, I clicked on it...sure enough, its labeled "San Antonio" And there are pics of him & my so called BF all over each other! OMG!!!!!!! This Guy is her EX BOYFRIEND from before she was married. What is she doing?

My cousin told me to not say anything until the Husbands are home so they can't take the pics off the page......I'm just FLOORED...she's been lying to not only her Husband but to me as well for a couple months now.....

What do I do? I don't want to bring it into the open while her Husband is gone but I think she needs to be confronted on this.

Some of you may think its not my business but its affecting me,She also has a 1 1/2 yr old that I watch 3 days a week....I care about her well being. I don't think its ok for her to lie to me and use me anymore....so I'm not sure what to do with this info!

[Cymbeline]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 12:00 AM

I think you should talk to HER about it. It's not your place to talk to her husband about it. Tell her exactly what you wrote here. Tell her she was betraying her husband and you. Let her know where you stand, but really try to stay out of it. Telling her husband isn't the best choice for the child or her, but I really believe hearing some sanity from her friend will help.

I think people make the best  choices when they have solid support. If she feels suddenly alienated, it may mean the end of her marriage, and her doing something drastic like running away with this other guy.

Good luck to you. I've been in this type of situation.. more than once.