SAHM no more?

[Thelmama]

The time is fast approaching that I may have to go back to work.  I face it with mixed feelings.  My youngest child is 3 and would benefit from Pre-K.  She loves learning, knows her colors, shapes, can count to 20, recognizes some letters, and can write a J and an O.  So I don't doubt she will do fine.  She craves learning. She begs for school.  It is just that I adore being a stay at home mom. 

 

My question is HOW?  How will I balance working and keeping our home?  Already there is never enough hours in the day.  How do I do it.  I hope to get a job where I can be picking up my kids by 3:30 pm..no later.  Then it will be homework, getting ready for the next day, meals to fix etc.  How do I keep the closeness we have?  Will I be sacrificing anything by going back to work?  Will it effect my kids?  Will my 3 year old miss out on time with Mommy the other two have had?  I have so many unanswered questions. 

 

I don't doubt my abilities.  Although it has been 9 years since I have been in the work force.  I just never imagined this time would come so soon.  But my husband can not do it all alone.  I have student loans coming due as I am having trouble with the deferment and they are no longer willing to work with me on it.  I thought I'd have till my youngest went to Kindergarten.  But as a responsible adult I realize this is not going to happen.  So with mixed feelings I post this journal in hopes someone will answer my questions.  Tell me how it worked for you?  How do you balance work and home and family time and togetherness.  I HAVE to go back to work!  There is no other option.  I owe I owe to it's off to work I go...LOL.  I have reached my limits of having my student loans deferred.  I will pay my debts and do it gladly.  I just do not want to sacrifice my kids for it.  Does that make sense?  Am I worried over nothing?

Please give me your views.  This SAHM is needing some advice, reassurance...I don't know but I am serious.  This is not meant to compare SAHM to working moms....that is NOT the purpose of this thread.  The purpose is to get advice, reassurance etc etc......How it worked for those that went from SAHM to working Mom.  How  it works for working moms etc. 

 

[Betsy858]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 8:38 AM

I am thinking about going in the work force myself as my hubby needs help financially as well. Will you be bringing enough income after paying for preschool? My hubby said if I work it should be pt. Three thirty may be too long. The ideal would be like 9:00 to one. I am not a mom who can do it all. But money is tuff so comprimise the amount of time per hours a day. Also good luck in this economy finding a job.

[Thelmama]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 8:45 AM

thanks...I am looking at working in the Pre-K my dd would attend at GREAT savings to me......at least until she gets into Kindergarten.  At that time I will look into something different.  I'd work an 8 hour day or so.  It is a lot to think about!

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[catholicmamamia]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 11:21 AM

If it has to be done, I would look into mom and child attending the same workplace/pre-school.. sort of a win/win!  :o)

[Thelmama]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 4:48 PM

that is what I am hoping for....because at least we'll be in the same building....LOL. I think it would be so much easier....for all concerned.  Thank you.

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