He doesn't deserve to go to the park?

[Momma_Halo]

I know I only have one boy and that my knowledge comes from a child development course plus I read a lot of parenting books. But I do own a four year old and his cousins who are all boys do come over to play. So maybe I am use to the screaming, wrestling, and a bunch of elephants tromping through the house. So my rational brain automatically thinks... drop everything and go to the park. Because at the park they can run off all that energy.

My cousin on the other hand is a stay at home mom with two boys. She starts complaining about she can't take their screaming anymore. So I offered the park because after the park the boys want to take naps. She then quickly comes back with "They don't DESERVE the park for acting up!"

Ok wait, when has a screaming boy turned into acting up? They just have a lot of energy and will act like wild animals if stuck in a house with no way of letting that energy out. If they were screaming at her and being disrespectful I would have suggested the corner or something. But not taking the kids to the park and saying they don't deserve the park? That is a little too much.

In no way am I a perfect mom, I have had my moments where my son got on my nerves but I sent him to grandma's for an hour so I can calm down and get my wits back. She has that option as well but refuses to use it because she wants to be mean to her mother. And all her mother said was "I just don't agree with you drinking and doing drugs while being a mother". Hell if that is the worst thing a mother can do... she wouldn't survive around my mother. My mother has said worse things to me and I am not a drug user nor do I drink. She actually called me a fat pig and I still go over there for my son to see his grandma (after she went to the psychiatrist for anger issues). My mom has a lot of opinions and doesn't care if it hurts your feelings. I rather have my cousin's mother sometimes.

Anyways I just don't get that she thinks her kids don't deserve the park for being boys.

[Krystal.Ingalls]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 11:46 AM

I think I'm going to try this idea today.  I have a 2 year old that's being a wild child today and we still have to get groceries.  I think I may have to stopp at the park 1st =)  I think it makes sense to run there energy out.  They got to do something with it!  Lol.

[Momforhealth]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 11:46 AM

I love taking my kids o the park.  They get to be free and go crazy.  It can be such a confidence builder at the same time.  It always changes a bad mood into a good one...then they are ususally worn out when they get home (quiet)

[MunchiesMom324]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 12:01 PM

I dont know how you moms do it!  I recently took my infant, toddler and big kid to the park... NEVER AGAIN.  If I do, I will leave one or two of them with nana or something... The big kid wants mommy to push him on the swing, so does todder... then infant starts his screaming wanting to be held/he's hot/ he doesnt like the sunshine whatever.  Yeah.  The infant is a miniature agoraphobe... he hates leaving the house... he doesnt even like the front porch (which has a rocker!!) then with the other two vying for my attention... mommy is the one that needs a nap after the park!!!

[theyareallmine]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 2:15 PM

You are so right.

[Nixshix]

Nov. 3, 2009 at 2:51 PM

I agree with MunchiesMom. I have three young boys and taking them all to the park is HARD. I only have two hands...

[CheshireHope]

Nov. 4, 2009 at 11:52 AM

OMG! i have 3 boys that stampede around my house! LOL they scream, yell, play rough. i have a nice size backyard that has and huge swing set in it the kids call it their playground. if i get tire of them in the house screamingand running i open the door and tell them to go outside to the playground( i'm stil lwith them but now i'm on the porch relaxing with a glass of tea, or orange juice. lol). and they love it they go to bed so much easier,(i don' have the meansto takethem to the park often(its 30 mins away! but even turnintg thm lose inth backyard would help when you get frizzed out) and they don't com back inside all loud either. then they actually do play quietly in their room. or they watch a little tv. they listen much better too! my cildren still at the ages of 5, 4, and 2yrs old

if i had somene willing to go to the ark with me and my children i sure wouldn't pass up the chance. its free timeforboth mommy and children then still gotta watch the kids but atleat you have someone to talk to while your there!

[Momma_Halo]

Nov. 4, 2009 at 6:54 PM

If I get a job I might do that and get play equipment for the backyard. But Tomas is an only so we go to the Park for socializing. But when his cousins are over I rather have them in the backyard. My car is so small and the boys are huge.

I can understand if a mom might feel overwhelmed to not go but to say they don't deserve it for being a normal toddler boy is a different story. That is what I don't understand.

(Original Poster)