REcently I became a SAHM mom again after years of working/daycare, etc.  In the past , my kids would go directly from school to daycare to home.  They have never had to interact with the kids in the neighborhood.  Unfortunately, I live in a lower socio-econmic neighborhood (hopefully for not too much longer).  Every single one of the kids in this neighborhood is in a single parent household and sadly,they are not supervised well or at all in some cases.  Please note , I am not making generalizations, this is just the case in MY neighborhood.

So, there is a group of 3 boys that are my sons age (8) and they already seem to have this gang mentality.  They gang up on him and another boy in the neighborhood.  They have not beat him up or anything but they do taunt him and exclude him.  They also are very rough with one another and have physical fights at the bus stop daily.   I am the only parent that shows up at the bus stop and when I show up they stop fighting ofcourse. Obviously, I want my son to stay away from them and he seems to not want to have anything to do with them anyways.

The other kid this gang taunts, I thought might be a good friend for my son, but lo and behold, when I invited him over here earlier this week - he dropped the F bomb and a whole bunch of other cuss words in front of me and my sons.  So, now I told my sons I didn't want them hanging out with him either. 

It just seems like there are no good kids (kids that don't fight or cuss) in this neighborhood for them to play with.  So I now have to drop them off and pick them up from school.  When the one F-bomb kid knocks on the door I tell him that my kids cannot play with him.  I am trying to show my kids that they will get in trouble if they hang out with these little hoodlums.  I think they understand.  Anyone else in the same predicament??? What has helped you???


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Nov. 4, 2009 at 9:02 AM

We have a very similar issue with the neighbors closest to us.  The fighting,  bullying,  and swear words are not acceptable so we just avoid them.  I also drive me son to and from school now because of these kids.  Thankfully those are the only people in the neighborhood we have issues with and there are a LOT of great families and kids around here I do allow my son to play with.  I know it can be inconvenient to have to do these things and we wish that all parents had the same morals and raised their children with manners and compassion for others,  but unfortunately,  it is just not the case with everyone.  We as parents have to do what we can to monitor who our kids spend time with and how they are influenced.

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Nov. 4, 2009 at 11:16 AM

I dont have the fighting and cussing but I do have a 3 & 5 yr old and the only neighbor kids are (now a little 5 yr old girl) but anywhere from 9-15 yr old.  Over the Halloween wkend, I had the 5,9,10,&my 2. (3 &5) stay over for a sleep over.  WHENEVER these 2 9/10 yr olds are together they are mouthy, hateful to the other kids (12/13/9/10) that come for visits with there parents. anyways  ALL THEY DO IS COME OVER TO MY HOUSE ALL THE,snack,drinks, icey pops etc.  they want to eat up everything chips etc and then go back out and be UGLY to MY KIDS. making them cry.  OH NO!!! I told them that they were lucky I allowed them to stay over w/o sending them home at the time..only b/c ones dad wasnt home but that the next morning they could get their happy tails up take the rest of the pizza left over and take it to their house and be together since they only want to be around them selves. ITS like they all want to stay the nights over here to get fed.  HECK I am TIRED OF IT. I also told them that they are not going to be staying at my house anymore!!! I was seriously done with their mean ways. 

still they act like nothing was said to them!!!! one still comes over before the bus,.,,,, hoping I will fix extra brkfst for her...(which I DON"T) and yesterday asked for a soda....nope. and then the other one who it really wasn't her being as ugly as the other wanted my kids to come out and play.  Then alot of my kids outside toys end up between my yard and 2 other neighbors yards or their kids stuff ends up over here.  they have no respect for putting things back.   

Anyways doll, just wanted you to know that you are not alone in this nasty world of misbehaved children..... take care...

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Nov. 4, 2009 at 8:32 PM

Thanks for your encouragement-- it is nice to know that I am not the only one out there with this problem.  I wish it was only one family in my neighborhood that had nasty kids but all the kids my sons age unfortunately seem to have behavioural issues.  I am only here one more year (maybe less) thank God, and so in themeantime I guess I will have to drive them to and from school and just make sure they stay as busy as possible to avoid those troublemakers.  I have told my kids that I don't want them hanging out with them and told them it is because they will get in trouble if they hang out with trouble makers.  I guess it is a good lesson for them in the long run.  They have to learn how the company they keep is a reflection of them. 

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