I thought things would get better, foolishly I thought they would care!

[mom2cuties0406]

Once Trace came. I thought my family and my SIL and BIL would get over this stupid crap they  pulled when they found out I was pregnant. But no...it's gotten worse. My son is almost a month old. My mom and sister stopped by our house for 10 min. to see him when he was 2 weeks old. That's it. My SIL and BIL live 5 blocks away (5 F-ING blocks) haven't bothered to stop by and meet him, don't call my Dh to see how he is doing,  NOTHING.

Today I was talking to my sister and I mentioned that my feeling are getting hurt and I'm really upset about all of this. She then said, "Well what did you expect, nobody wanted you to have him". Yeah that's right....my only SISTER actually said that to me and then didn't understand why I cried and hung up on her. So the family we left everything for (our home, jobs, friends, other family) and moved 1,600 miles to be with, because they didn't want our kids to grow up without them. Don't give a rat's ass and the family and friends we left cry on the phone to me because they wish they could see him and hold him. I feel like crying and screaming and cursing and I don't know what to do about them.

So nobody loves our son, they still don't want him here and it breaks my heart to look at him and know that his grandparents and aunts and unlce could actually feel this way

Tags: family, heart broken, grandparents, aunt, uncle, baby

Add A Comment

[sunflowerfreak]

Nov. 4, 2009 at 3:03 PM

OMG!!! What a bunch of idiots they are!! They are missing out on so much.  Well, it's their loss not yours.  You have a beautiful child that you love so much.  Sorry that you moved away from your support you need.  I hope someday you and your DH get to move back to your family and friends to where you child will be loved and accepted.  Hang in there. 

[Mandafers]

Nov. 4, 2009 at 4:31 PM

Somebody in CB shared something with me that really helped put things in perspective. Your FAMILY consists of you, DH, and your four beautiful children. Everybody else, just relatives. And you have really shitty relatives.

I think you and DH need to sit down and have a heart to heart about what you two want. Do you want to be here in KS? Is there somewhere else you want to be? Is a move feasable?

Time for you to pick your own family. You don't get to choose your relatives, you are stuck with them at birth. Family, you can choose.

I don't remember if we talked about it before, but are there any mommy and me groups around you? I know there are some in Wichita (which I know is a drive, but it may be worth it if you can make some new friends!) I am blessed that my family is pretty good and my ILs aren't totally hideous. They at least enjoy my kids.

I know it's so hard not to care. I know it is excruciating to have people not adore your baby. He is a blessing from God! Those relatives are truly just shitty people. Karma will bite them in the ass.