I need advice immediately!!

[labrax]

Hi,everyone.

I'll be quick about this cos i've got to see my oby-gyn tomorrow morning by 11am. The only good thing is that my baby Memphis arrived 10 days earlier on the 26th of October so I'm no longer pregnant, thankfully!

But he came with a face presentation so I was given a big cut to let him out. 2 days ago, i had the feeling that my stitches had come undone, so yesterday i had my husband take a look, he confirmed my fears. The episiotomy site is beginning to heal cos it's starting to itch,mind you, it's 10 days old. 

I had an episiotomy with my first son cos it turned out to be a forcep delivery, I'd no problems with the healing but with my second son last year, I was given another cut and the stitches came undone after a week so i went in for re-stitching on that seventh day and it was hell for me. The pain burned into my brain! I've a high threshold for pain which am proud of but I wept like a baby from the pain. I couldn't sit,stand or lie still and no pain killer worked.My doc eventually added penthoxine to the diflucan shots and it gave little relief for only four hours. I can't even remember how long the pains lasted cos it's not something I like to rehash.

So, now,my stitches have come undone again. I googled it up and learned it can heal on its own. A friend of mine had the same experience, didn't go for a re-stitch and it healed. Answers on the internet said tissue/ skin would grow back but muscles won't. I'm so worried that I called my doc, he said it depends on the extent of the loosening cos that if it's bad my vagina would be loose and that I might not enjoy sex afterwards.

I can't face the pain ever, I've a mind to let it heal on it's own, use aloe-vera on the site, do super,super kegels anything else but re-stitching.

What's your advise,pls? I can't even tell my husband what the doc said.

[NannyB.]

Nov. 5, 2009 at 7:45 AM

You should tell your husband what the doctor said and then the two of you make the decision about what you should do.

[sati769leigh]

Nov. 5, 2009 at 8:05 AM

honestly you should let the dr examine the area and give you his opinion before making and decisions. having a looser vagina does NOT mean you wont enjoy sex. but it might mean changes in how you and hubby need to do things(ie more foreplay hmm?). go and have it checked out and see how much things have healed so far. you may be very surprised to find that since you had your baby a LOT of healing has occurred.