Time to make a change, for the rest of my life - Goals

[iamme1414]

 

I feel like life is going by, but I'm not really living it.  I have a great family, job and house.  I have lots to be thankfull for and I am.  It just seems like I'm living life, but I'm not really "living" it to its fullest.  I "borrowed" these goals from another cafemom.  They are all what I've been thinking I want and need to do, but writing them down seems to give them more credibility, worth and focus. 

My goals: Declutter & get house organized - Lose weight & exercise - Read the Bible - Become debt free - Excel at work - Enhance relationship with DH, DD and DS. 

I added the last two as they seem to be areas that I want to work on as well. 

I feel a little better now.  Think this is a turning point for me and thus for my family.

Funny, as I wrote this I was thinking about this song>>thus the title.  And breezing by some posts, I see it listed so I thought I'd add it.... 

If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place Take A Look At Yourself, And Then Make A Change - Michael Jackson

[iamme1414]

Jan. 14, 2011 at 1:02 PM

Hmmm - been over a year and I haven't done much to change things :(...  

I posted this today on a reply post and it really seems to have opened my eyes a bit.  The title was what is on the agenda?>>

"Christmas and general clutter are first, then minor repairs and minor decorating around the house, then a plan to work on some major repairs and decorating that are needed to be done soon.  And, I'm working on household organization and budgeting and loosing 28lbs.  I'm not liking things lately, so I'm doing some things about it. The ole - accept what you can't change and change what you can."

I'm feeling empowered and optimistic. 

 

 

 

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[iamme1414]

Sep. 6, 2011 at 1:03 PM

Well things haven't improved yet...I've decided to make a major change and divorce my husband...I've noticed that I'm so much happier, outgoing and energetic when he is not around...the kids and I spend a lot of time out of the house...and I realize it is more for me then them.  I recently posted this on two groups for advice, prayers and a list of any items that I can't forget during the divorce...wish me and the kids luck...though it can't be worst then the hell that we are in at times.>>

Well, after almost 16 years of marriage I've decided to end it.  I just don't like him. I could go on in details...but won't.  Let's just day>>We hardly get along, he insists on seperate monies and does not cover all the items needed to raise two kids.  We fight off and on and lately I've seen it effect the kids...most recently on my youngest birthday.   So we have a joint bank...mainly one that I have and he just uses to cash his check and deposit some bill monies in to, a house with a mortgage and a small second on it, three not great cars, a combined cell phone plan with DD on it, insurance for me and kids through my work, my 403b, his work pension, my student loans, small emergency fund and about 5k or so in other debt.  I ofcourse really want the house and the kids...but he is stubborn as a mule and won't leave.  I work full time and he works part time...I'm so afraid that the kids will be uproated and/or even worst that he'd get the house and kids and I'd be out on the street and paying him child support.  I can make it in the house with child support...though it will be tight...but a new job for me is an option with less commute costs and/or health premiuims...though I love my job and my supervisor.  I don't think he would be able to even with monies from me...unless his mom caves and helps him.  We live in NJ...family is in PA...but the kids and I do like the house and the area...though the yard will need to be serviced as it is too much for me and I get poison ivy very easily. 

Thanks all

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