I don't get to go.

[MOmomof8]

My dh will be taking the track team to Jefferson City by himself this weekend.  Rose has the H1N1 flu so she can't be out & about.  Her parents have to work Friday night & Saturday & don't have anyone else to watch her.  Then there is Chris & JJ for me to watch Friday morning & Saturday morning bc their dad has the flu.  I'm not really feeling all that great anyway.  I was looking forward to it but I guess it isn't to be.  So my dh took me out to eat mexican food tonight at my favorite place.  It was were he took me on our first date.  We talked about our first date & all the things we've been through since then.  I told him that it was are second date when he saved me that sealed the deal for me.  It was a really bad day & he came to my rescue.  He bought me a 4-way bc my son had taken my tire tool & I was unable to change my flat so I sat in the heat waiting for highway assistance.  I had a prepay cell phone & only had 7 minutes left which I used calling all over trying to find a relative that would come help me.  I was taking my car into the shop to have the ac fixed so I had no ac.  I had gone to 2 ATM's to get money & both were down.  I was almost in tears by the time I made it to the shop where my dh was to meet me.  He wasn't there bc they told him I had a flat & he weint to find me & help me.  So when he got there, he took me to Walmart, bought me a 4-way, minutes for my phone, & 3 pink roses in a vase.  My own father wouldn't never do that much for me so I was feeling like Prince Charming had come to my rescue.  We went back to get my car & they didn't fix my ac.  I told them exactly what was wrong but they didn't listen to me.  It cost me $80 & my ac still didn't work.  They told me to bring it back the next day but I was so mad that I just dropped the whole thing.  My dh then took me out to eat at Applebee's.  We ended up at my apartment talking until 2 am. 

He was so wonderful.  I went out of town the following weekend but he called me twice a day.  Then he was at my apartment when I got home.  Back then I was traveling to KC every 2 weeks & usually stayed there a week or two.  As our relationship grew, my trips slowed down & I wasn't gone for as long.  After we got married I didn't make hardly any trips unless he could go with me.

I seen his profile on the internet & sent him a wink but he didn't respond.  A year later, he sent me an I'm interested in you & I did respond to him.  We spent about 2 weeks on the internet.  The first week was on that singles site, the next week sending emails, then next week we talked on the phone & 3 days later we met.  We were married 3 1/2 months later.  He proposed on a Saturday that I had just come back from KC.  I stopped to get my mail & met him at my apartment.  I had gotten a letter from my son that was in prison so I wanted to read it right away.  I read it out loud to him.  My son had also writing a poem which I read to my dh & when I finished he said yeah that's how I feel about you.  He asked me to move to Dexter which I said I couldn't live with him without being married.  He told me that's what he had in mind.  Neither one of us wanted to wait very long so we started planning a small outside wedding & looking for a place to have it.  I love the Big Oak Tree park just outside of East Prairie, the town I was born in.  So I made calls & got it reserved for Saturday, October 29th.   We went to KC & shopped for our clothes which we found at Penney's outlet.  I wore a pink dress & wanted to be barefoot.  He wore a black shirt with black cargo pants.  Di, my dil, had a black dress just like the pink one I bought.  She stood up with me.  Skylor, his son that's 7 feet tall, stood up for him.   Nick & Travis walked me down the aisle.  Because of the nut things all over the ground which were suppose to be picked up for me, I had to wear my shoes.  It was very simple but nice.  We had nature all around us, even a lake.  A few of our family members were there.  We used 2 preachers bc I didn't really like one but my cousin couldn't proform a wedding alone so we split the ceremonies between the two of them.  We had a rose ceremony & a sand ceremony.  The rose ceremony we gave each other a red rose while my cousin read the meaning of the ceremony.  The sand ceremony was were we each took one vase of colored sand & mixed the two colors in a larger vase.  This was to show how our lives would now be mixed together, unable to be separated.  My cousin also read the meaning behind this ceremony.  I looked all over the internet to find something different for our wedding & I liked these two ceremonies the best.  It was chilling that day but I didn't care.  My dh wrote his own vows but broke up so my cousin had to read them for him, both of us were in tears.  We didn't have a wedding cake, we had cupcakes but the top was a small cake for us to save.  I was nice to him when I fed him a cupcake but he wasn't very nice.  He got it on my nose which everyone thought was so funny & cute.   He recorded our songs off the internet & his youngest daughter was incharge of playing them at the right time.  Something happened & her, Nick & Travis all got into playing the songs so they were out of order & one was completely skipped.  I fixed up the flowers that Di & I carried as well as all the flowers for the guys.  I was finishing them up at the park while waiting on everyone to show up.  Nick had to hitchhike there.  His friend was bringing him but his truck broke down.  An older couple drove him all the way to the park.  We asked them to stay but they had plans already.  The preacher was late.  Not everyone showed up but that didn't matter.   My mom didn't want my dad to be there or my sister with her 5 kids so I didn't invite them.  My sister didn't speak to me for 18 months or so.   My dad was busy anyway & so was his wife.  My dh & I slept together the night before, got dressed together & rode together to the park.  We just throw the traditions out the window.  We wanted to be married on Halloween but that was on a Monday & nobody would've come so we married on the Saturday before.  

We have been married for 4 years now & still as happy as we were then, even happier.  I have grown to love his kids as my own & he has done the same with my kids.  We both treat all the kids as if they belong to both of us.  We are a very blended family.  You see, my 3 sons are half brothers, his girls are bio sisters that were adopted by my dh & his late wife, his son was also adopted by dh & his late wife.  He had 2 other sons but they passed away, one was 10 days old & the other was 20 years old.  My oldest son has 5 kids, 2 that are being raised by their moms & stepfathers & 2 that are being raised by him & his wife & 1 that became his when they married.  My middle son has a daughter that was adopted by her stepfather & is married to my dh's oldest daughter who has a daughter by a previous marriage.  So see what I mean, we are really truly blended. 

So we are happy with our family of 6 grown kids & 10 grandkids.  We don't see all of them as much as we would like to then there are those that we see more often than would like to.....lol  Really our kids aren't too bad at messing up our plans or barging in on us.  The ones that live upstairs cook for us from time to time.  We go to Nick's house once in awhile to eat.  If I spend the night to babysit then he fixes breakfast for me with bacon & eggs.  The only thing that could make me happier is if my oldest son would talk to me & I could see them & the kids more.  They are the only kids that live more than a day trip from us.  I guess I can't have everything.  But then my life isn't over with yet.  Anything can happen, all things are possible.  It ain't over til the fat lady sings & I haven't even warmed up yet......lol