MY SO AND HIS FAMILY

[iwmoln2120]

HERE IS ALITTLE BACK STORY.

MY SO BRIAN AND I MET ON MYSPACE IN AUGUST OF 2007 AND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER EVER SINCE. IT STARTED OFF AS JUST A FRIENDSHIP BUT GREW INTO SOMETHING MORE SOMETHING SO MUCH MORE. WE CONNECTED ON A LEVEL THAT WAS ALMOST MAGICAL. WE HAVE NOT BEEN INTIMINT AT ALL IN THE 2 ALMOST THREE YEARS(WILL BE 3 YEARS AUGUST 27 2010)

SO HERE IS THE PROBLEM HIS FAMILY HATES ME. THEY HAVE NOT EVEN MET ME YET NOR MORE THAN LIKLY NEVER WILL BECAUSE HE DOES NOT WANT TO SUBJECT ME TO ANYMORE OF THEIR HATRED THEN NEED BE (WHEN WE ARE ON THE PHONE I CAN HEAR WHAT THE SAY {CALLING ME A W**** [HIS BROTHER CALLS ME THAT] HIS MOM HATES THE WAY WE GOT TOGETHER, HIS DAD DOESN'T CARE ONE WAY OR THE OTHER, HIS MOM SAY THE IF I GET PREGNANT [AS IN EVER] SHE WILL DISOWN HIM ALL TOGETHER SHE IS ALREADY HALF WAY THERE AND SHE WON'T EVER WANT TO SEE HIM ME OR OUR CHILD[REN].

WE ARE SET TO GET MARRIED OCTOBER 15 2010 AND I WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE THERE BUT I KNOW THAT IS A LONG SHOT. I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHY THEY HATE ME WHY THEY HATE HIM AND WHAT THEIR ISSUE IS ALL AROUND

IF ANYONE HAS ANY ADVICE PLEASE SHARE FIANCE

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[MSugarKane]

Nov. 6, 2009 at 4:45 PM

No matter how hard it is now, you should really try to talk to his mom on a one on one adult conversation and ask her about your concerns.  If you don't now, once your married you will have much more problems to face.  If you do that and she still disowns her son, and any grandchild, then you know in your heart you did the best you could and your the bigger person.   good luck

[MegaMamaTX]

Nov. 6, 2009 at 9:57 PM

My advice would be to NOT get married until you know the whole story. People come with baggage, and it sounds like he has his share with his family. There are reasons why his mother would say these sort of things. I couldnt fathom saying that to my child unless there was a definite reason. To never want to see your kid or grandkids is very harsh statement to say (and to hear, Im sure!). If I were you, Id invite them over for a nice dinner. Let them know in advance that you want to get to know them. Buy some wine (that always helps to loosen people up). Then after dinner when everyone is sitting around, ask about your FI. Ask how cute he was as a kid, what sort of things he did that made his parents proud, etc. The only way for you to know his family is to be around them. I wouldnt marry anyone whom I didnt know their family. After being with my exhusband, I learned too late the issues he had (has) with his family. If this is the guy for you, he'll wait for you while you "feel him out" and get to know his family. After all, you'll be married into his family and will have to put up with it then. If you have kids with him, so will they. There is no rush. When you're in love all you can think about is being together forever, but once the honeymoon period is over, there better be something concrete to back it up. Best of luck!