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My mother called DSS on DH & I....Update.
- Nov 6, 2009 at 8:11 PM
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Yes I'm serious, my mother really called DSS on my dh and I. Here's the situation:
I got pregnant. My mother told me that if my husband and I moved to her town she would cover half of our mortgage until my dd turned 2 years old. She knew right offhand we couldn't afford it and SHE was the one that offered [she really wanted us close or so she said].
So we uprooted our lives and moved 2 hours away from all my other family. My mother and her husband split up 6 months ago & she stopped paying her half. So no longer could we afford it. My mother calls me and tells me that we have 2 days to get all of our things and move. Mind you, we weren't planning on moving quite yet nor really had the funds to. I asked her, "So you're kicking out dh, your GRANDDAUGHTER, and your own child? What if we have nowhere to go?" And she says, "I don't care whether yall have somewhere to go or not." So I told her that we were never speaking again and she wouldn't see my child anymore and we left. [there are other reasons why we would no longer be talking, that just put the icing on the cake].
We have been living with my dad for about 2 weeks and I get a letter from DSS. My mother called and said that my husband and I are ABUSING our dd. I'm so upset and irrate that I can not even think straight.. I have never done anything wrong to my dd and neither has my husband. My DD is happy, healthy, caught up on all shots, and we take care of her dearly..
Now I have to anticipate a visit from DSS so that they can come and check it out.
I'm so upset, this is f'ng ridiculous..
Now really, there's no reason anyone should think anything's wrong..
*UPDATE* I TALKED TO DSS AND THEY ARE COMING TO MY HOUSE IN THE MORNING AT 10. NOT EXCITED FOR THIS BUT DEFINITELY READY TO GET IT OVER WITH..
Comments:
are they wanting to investigate? If so let them. Show them that you are not abusing her, because once they mark the case as unfounded and your mother calls again they will mark it as harassment.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. are you sure the DSS letter is legit? i have NEVER heard of them sending someone a letter and i have never heard of them investigating based on ONE phone call. typically it takes calls from more than one person to get them to COME to your house with NO warning. they dont usually send letters. i am wondering if she is trying to play mind games iwth you?
and how do you know it was HER? they NEVER say who made the call either. i suspect this is not a REAL letter from them honey.
The reason they sent the letter is that I moved and they didn't know that. The letter stated the dates that they came and that it was unsuccessful. I'm positive it's real because when they brought the letter to my house, I had to sign for it, AND I called and actually talked to the people.
The DSS lady said that she would get a hold of DSS in the new county that I'm living in and that they would come out and investigate.
My mother is mad because I moved out of the house. She wanted to have complete control over me although she is the one that told me to get. I suppose she wanted me to beg her to stay there but that wasn't happening.
My brother talked to her today and she admitted calling. She told them that my husband and I were drug addicts and that we abuse and neglect our daughter..
My mother gave my brother, sister, and I up and I was 2 months old at the time. She dropped us off at the grandmother's house, said she would come back but didn't until I was 16. Since then, she tries to play all nice but does everything she can to hurt me.
She convinced my dad a few years ago that I was shooting up and had them arrest me [I was underage].
Went to my job and told them I was selling drugs out of the place and lost that job. [it was bullshit]
Told dh & I if we got married that we would be coming home to our shit on the lawn and the locks changed. [we got married anyways without telling her & still haven't to this day].
When I was pregnant and we went to the doctor, she told my dh that my child was not HIS.
When dd was born & I had to have a c-section, she freaked out & told my dh that he had no right to be in the room [only allowed one person].
She's telling my family that I NEVER paid my half of the mortgage which is bullshit, I stopped paying it a few months ago when she did.
I worked for her at a clothing store and she fired me because I went to see my sick grandmother [after she already OKAY'D it that I could miss the meeting and go] (she hates my grandmother). And at that time my husband just lost his job so he was left without.
She has been opening my mail since I moved and reading it and calling the credit card companies and giving them my parent's house number.
My mother is just a vindictive bitch who wants everything her way and when she doesn't get it, she'll throw the biggest fit and do anything possible to make herself happy.
She really took it too far though, this is crazy.
oh honey i am so sorry. you should call a lawyer seriously.
Once a report is called in, they will automatically investigate. If they don't find any real evidence, you will have an indicated case in their system that will remain there for how long--I'm not exactly sure.
My question is why is your mother being so evil. Does she realize that she is jeapordizing her granddaughter's life and yours too naturally.
In light of all of this, I personally would break all ties with your mother because you definitely don't need that kind of drama in your life when you're raising a family.
Anyway, hope everything works out for you.
Wishing you the best of luck!
ok when DSS comes to investigate be open and honest. Because they have to investigate because of the call. Don't get a attitude or try to fight. You know the truth that you wouldn't hurt your daughter.
yea I had someone mad at me call. I was shocked when they called and told me. I decided that they will see the true mother I am. I welcomed them in to my home. I introduced her to my daughter. The woman that was there asked to see my other child. I said this is my only. I guess that they reported that my DH and I repeatedly hit her in the face and body. It was the summer time and my DD was in a summer tank dress. So she talked to me for a while asked my DD about spanking. In which she answered Mom doesn't spank she gets it to fights with grandma all the time about it... Oh no my MIL didn't call, they didn't tell me who called but I think it was a woman that I wouldn't let my DD play with her child because she would pass out on the couch and not watch the girls and her 2 other kids.
Oh yea if I was you when you do get a job or etc. Warn them about your mother.... Tell them the truth that it was a bad split and that she has done things like tell my last job that you were on drugs. I had to get a drug test before I started my last 2 jobs! So if they have drug testing they will know! But break all ties with her for yourself and your family.
sounds to familiar but my person was a drunk that told me on my wedding day I was the uglyest thing he ever saw.....
it will be hard at first everyone will try to talk you out of it. She needs you... yada yada... But you don't need that crap!
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and nobody feels the need to try to help me through this situation... great.
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