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Teenage sons
- Nov 6, 2009 at 10:09 PM
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Well, here it is another Friday nite and my teen son is out with his buddies... Even though he's almost 18 years old, I still worry about him cuz of all the craziness that goes on these days:/ Yes, craziness even in this small city of Abilene, TX.
So what do ya'll do to get by at times like these?
Connie Sue
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Try to get him to agree to call you and let you know that he is alright at least one time a night. Tell him that he doesn't have to let his friends know that he's calling home. Just make a quick call home to check in. Both my sons are grown now. Before going to sleep at night I picture them in God huge hands and God closing his hands around them, then I'm able to fall asleep. I missed a lot of sleep waiting to hear from them. I sort of blackmailed them into checking in because I would threaten to call the whole list of friend if they didn't check in. They would call just to keep me from embarrassing them. Blessings
Oh can I relate. I have 5 teenage sons, only 3 are able to be out and about right now...thank goodness. My oldest son has had struggles with AODA addiction so my worry is tremendous! I agree with momof2jmms, a phone call makes a world of difference. I have that as an expectation for all of my boys...if curfew is at 11pm, I need a phone call by 9. If they have a cell phone, a text every hour. If they can be out texting their friends they sure can text their moms!
Good luck! Breathe deep! It is always more difficult to allow them to make their choices good/bad. You got him this far, I am sure everything will be fine.
text her every hour...thats just nuts, let ur kids have there space, if u smother them they will just rebel. I learned the hard way and because my mother was so overprotective and nosy I just learned to lie better and rebel like crazy, made mistakes because of it and now I haven't had a relationship with her in over 3 years..learn to let go a bit, they will appreciate the trust and give u the same respect.
i just have my sons text me when they get to where they are going and when they are on the way home and i trust god to protect them and to guide them to make the right choices in between i agree that them texting you or you texting them every hour lead to trust issues and cause them to rebel.......in the end they will have to deal with whatever choices they make good or bad....i also do a lot of praying while they are gone.
My son is only two, but I worry about his teenage years, mostly because of my brothers, but I would definitely make him check in periodically during the day or night - to let me know if he's ok or needs a ride or whatever...
your in Abilene? Im in Midland, you are 3 hours from me...My inlaws are in Comanche. I dont have a teenager (yet) but my siblings are teens and i always worry about them, I just have to do alot of praying :)
i feel ya.i have one teen ds.
Huggles
both my teens know to call me and let me know where they are going if they are going somewhere other than the agreed location. We live in a small town in Ohio and I just want to know who they are with, where they are and they better be home by curfew. Oh and if they are going to be late to call. Before we moved my son was at the library (no biggie) but he said he'd be home by 4 pm and he was not home. I called the library and found out they were under lock down because the bank 2 doors down had just been robbed.
My son is in college about 2 1/2 hours away I will text him with stupid questions just so I can make sure he is ok... But now I find him texting me every couple of days I think he knows mom needs to make sure he is ok... He has been away at college for about 6 weeks now and has been home every weekend but 2....
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i dont know what im going to do when my son is that old. im only 22 and my son is 5 months so ive got a while, and i can remember very clearly what i was doing when i was 18 and i also live in a small town. lets hope your sons not like i was!! but either way, you have to trust him and trust life and know whats ment to happen is going to happen. hes experiencing life, and so are you. its all good =)