CHILD CUSTODY I NEED YOUR HELP!

[KensysMama]

My husband cheated on me then left me and my daughter for two weeks with no money for bills food etc. He then began paying me 575 for child support and agreed to cover our rent of 350 until the end of December. Since he has been gone he has been in open relationships with pictures posted on facebook. He knows of one fling I had snice he left (not involving sex) which is the only thing I have had with another man since we began dating 5 years ago. He lives with his mother 2 hours away except for the random days that he decides to stay with friends ten mins away.

He is trying to tell me that if we go to court over custody of our daughter that he will get what he wants (every other wed through sun) because he is paying me full child support. I do not believe that it is in her best interest to be jerked back and forth everytime she gets settled in, expecialy since I have been her primary care giver since she was born. Before the split she has either been with me or my mother since the day she was born. When my husband left he began taking her to his mothers every other weekend. I allow him to have her whenever he is in town for a few hours a night, but usually he is too busy to see her when he is here,off hanging out with his friends. My daughter is 14 months old. We live in VA. If we go to court will be get the wed through sunday that he wants or will he be awarded every other wknd, one night a week for 3 hours, and 3 weeks in the summer? I dont know what to do. I have an attorney who says that I will most def get what I want but I dont know....

Ladies please give me a realistic view....

[Kimi258]

Nov. 10, 2009 at 5:56 PM

Honey you need to believe your attorney and listen to what he says. If your ex goes to court with a sense of entitlement just because he pays child support the Judge is gonna get pissed. They don't like that at all. He needs to make the judge believe that he is asking for these things because it is in the best interest of the child, but it doesn't sound like that is what your ex will do. And when you talk to the judge you lneed to make him believe that it's in your childs best interst for whatever it is your asking. Hopefully his true colors will shine through. You need to start writing down all correspondence and times that he actually visits her. Definately listen to your lawyer.