DD has discovered them long ago and I let her use the term "girly" for it since it's easy to say, toddler friendly, and not confusing. I told myself I'd only let it go til she's verbally capable of the real terms. So I'm ready to give her the real names. But I don't know if I should use all of them. Looking at female anatomy diagrams, each one has 5-10 labels. Which ones matter enough to explain? I don't think she's quite ready to distinguish and remember them all. So should I just give her a few? Ex: The clitoris is where she likes to touch while the urethra is where her pee comes from. Would it be easier to just call the whole thing her vulva? Any input or experiences?

*except telling me that she doesn't need to know her body parts*

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Nov. 10, 2009 at 2:46 PM

I would just cal the whole thing her vagina, and give her the other terms as she asks/talks about them. Felipe has already talked some about "the hole where the pee comes out," for example; if she talked about that, then I would say "That's right, honey, your pee comes out of a little hole called a urethra." Then do the same for any other specific part she notices on  her own.

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Nov. 10, 2009 at 2:47 PM

Well, not knowing how old your daughter is, I have a son and he's 8. But he asked me why I have different stuff when he was maybe 6 or 7. So I told him, girls have vaginas and guys have penises. Girls have breasts and guys breasts are flat but they are still called breasts. I don't know how indepth she asked about a womans vagina but that's what I said for the time being.

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Nov. 10, 2009 at 2:49 PM

Technically, the entire outer part is the vulva, and the interior is the vagina.  However, it's most common to refer to the whole "private area" as the vagina.  It's up to you whether or not you choose vulva or vagina.

Urethra is technically the tube to the bladder, and the meatus (me-ay-tus) is the actual hole the urethra empties from, but most people will just refer to it as the urethra.

Personally, I'm going with vagina and urethra, and when it comes up, I'll get into more detail.   I've explained it all to my son, and he seemed to be okay with simplicity, except when he wanted to know more.

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Nov. 10, 2009 at 3:24 PM

I'm letting my daughter know it's her private parts, right now at 13 months it's creases and crevases.

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Nov. 10, 2009 at 3:35 PM

i tell adriel he has a penis and mommy has a vagina. 

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Nov. 10, 2009 at 3:36 PM

*ok so now that ive read the whole thing, just tell her the proper terminology she will remember it or not, at least you arent being ashamed like son many people, or telling her fake words to compensate. 

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Nov. 10, 2009 at 3:43 PM

I would just go with vagina for now.... that's what the whole area will be referred to in her first science/health classes, at least when I was in school.  It wasn't til 7th grade that distinctions were made for the vulva, and not til high school for the Clitoris.  Not that the public school system is the best example for sex ed, lol

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Nov. 10, 2009 at 7:51 PM

Girls have vagina's

Boys have penis's.

Getting anymore explicit about either the male or the female genitilia isn't necessary unless questions are asked.    And that question usually is how do babies get in or out of a mom's stomach.   Then you can answer God made a special area in the vagina for the baby to come out naturally.


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Nov. 10, 2009 at 10:24 PM

i told my dd that its a vagina its simple for now..and little by little  imma explain the rest and each name for everything  girl u go for it i see no harm in educating a girl early on about her body :)

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Nov. 11, 2009 at 12:21 AM Yeah, I'd just go with vagina. And explain the other parts as they come up. Just like an eye, you'd tell a 2 year old, "This is your eye" and then explain iris pigmentation when it came up. You wouldnt sit a 2 year old down and explain iris, retina, cornea, etc. Know what I mean?

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