Understanding my Purpose as a Parent

[leowriters]

Ok this is the first go-a-round at this, so I am just going to say what's on my mind and let that be that.

 

My oldest daughter has thiis girl who is one of her best freinds. She's had her issues in the past, mother passed away when she was 9, she is 15 now.She lives with her Grandparents, and 2 minutes from us. So our girls hooked up. Now I'm not saying my daughter is a perfect angel, she's not she does do her fair share of back tolk, being mean to her little sisiter, but that it. Her friend, goes over to whatever boyfriend she has that month house all hours of the night during school. She has already gotten sent to alternative school for selling smokes at school. That cost her a week, and 50 hours of some kinda of work. plus probabtion. Now I find out that Due to thefact another boy brought coke with vodka in it on the school bus she and 4 other kids were drinking on the bus. They offered to my daughter and she turned them down. But one of these girls is in the 7th grade and a cheerleader, 2 of the boys I don't know, but the other two kids I do. The boys who brought it on the bus, his sister plays ball with my youngest daughter and the girl is my oldest best freind. I talked to the friend but she gave me the attitutde that whatever. I told her I was going ot tell her granma she said k. I gave ger 15 minutes to tell her herslf but she didn't.

 

Was i wrong to say something. this girl up until recently spent a lot of time with my family and love her like she is one of mine. I would want another parent to tell me if my kids were doing something that ciuld harm them or someone. I don't want this to be an issue for my oldest. She didn't "tattle". i found the text in her phone an dquestioned her about it. She finally told me ehat happened. THe girl knows that she tells me pretty much everything sooner or later.

 

DO i leave it alone and let what damages i have done sette(i think I did the right thing), do i call the school and tell them, do I can the other parents, or do i call the bus driver. My kids and the girl are my concern on this bus. I just don't want to cause phyiscal harm for my daughter. and he father things i may be getting something started. I'm don't "tattle" on everything i see or hear, just the really big one....drnking, fights, sex.

i think, no I know I did the right thing, but why does it seem like i am harming my kids future.

[MSugarKane]

Nov. 11, 2009 at 4:21 AM

The bus drivers job is to drive the kids, make sure they are all sitting while the bus is moving and keep her eyes on the road. 

I would tell the guardian or grandparent what is happening if I knew for sure and at the very least warn them.

With your own children you can't protect them forever from these evils. You have to instill in them fear of doing drugs and work with your own children.   I got four teenagers through teen years.  Lots of drug traffic occured during school, on the bus, and at friends homes.  They are all now in their 20's and having their own children now.   I have asked them and they admit to smoking pot but steered from the 'bad' drugs because I had told them it messes with their chromosones and if they wanted children when they got older, don't do drugs.  

That worked for my girls.   Good luck!