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my mom just called to cancel Thansgiving and Christmas
- Nov 11, 2009 at 9:35 AM
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My parents are hoping to move 8/9 hours away next year so this may be the last holiday season they live close enough to see. They are really broke right now and can't afford to buy October (or us) anything so my mother just called to cancel both Thanksgiving and Christmas! WTF? Does she think we care if we get gifts? If she wants October to have something to open at her house we can give her a few gifts for there. I mean really! I started shopping last Feb, i have plenty of gifts for October. Plus I can pick up a few books and coloring books at the dollar tree to supplement. I can definitely give a few things to be opened there. Eric and I don't need anything.
She even said that we are not allowed to get them anything. Well they can bite me! Every year October helps me make cookies, brownies etc to give them and this year she will do it agian. I already had planned on her making gifts for them and I'll be damned if she has to miss out on the fun because it is a tight financial year for my parents (dad is laid off and moms hours at DD get cut when UCONN is not in session such as during the Christmas season).
Am I being selfish for wanting to spend what could be our last Christmas with my parents in our state together as a family? For wanting my dd to have this memory?
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Maybe take your parents out to dinner-if anything is open for turkey and c hristmas. You can bring along some gifts for October to open and give to your parents.After all it is about family togetherness. Maybe you parents are sad and you need to talk to them about them moving so faR away and how you will miss them. Maybe they feel that nobody will miss them.IDK I would just talk to them and compromisee.
Maybe take your parents out to dinner-if anything is open for turkey and c hristmas. You can bring along some gifts for October to open and give to your parents.After all it is about family togetherness. Maybe you parents are sad and you need to talk to them about them moving so faR away and how you will miss them. Maybe they feel that nobody will miss them.IDK I would just talk to them and compromisee.
No, not selfish at all. Instead of having dinner at your parents place, have it at your place and it doesn't need to be the Tradition meal, either. You could have spaghetti and meatballs or lasagne or heck even Tacos. No need for presents, either....well, except for the yummy goodies you and October are going to make =). Heck, you and your folks can play card games, board games, pain/color with October and play games with October. Let your parents know how you feel that this is important to you and October.
Good Luck and Hugs.
Awe Annie, things never go right for you! :( I would tell your parents how you feel, and if they wont take that then guilt them. I hope it works out!!
I'm sorry sweatheart! Sounds like our family!! They are too proud to be giving gifts that aren't from them!! Did you talk to your mom about it yet?? I would call her and tell that October seeing her is her gift she doesn't need anything else!! I would try to talk her into it if they have the money to get there instead of buying gifts! I think any child would rather see their grandma then get a gift! I would talk to her and see what she wants to do! I hope it works out honey!
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No, it is not selfish to want to spend time with your family--ever! But do try to see this through their eyes. They are probably very embarrassed by the situation they find themselve in. Maybe you could have them to your house, if you had planned on going to theirs. Try to let your anger subside. Then you will be able to look for a real solution to this that will save face for your parents and make it possible for everyone to have an enjoyable time together. One thing you could suggest is that you buy some inexpensive gifts for the children and put the grandparents name on them. Or let them put their own names on them. Just think about the possibilities and I am sure you will be able to come up with ideas that will work.
- NannyB.
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