The end of week 1....Days 6 and 7.

[jenniamigo]

DAY 6.... For dinner I made black bean and sweet potato enchilada pie. And it was great but a bit on the spicy side. There was one problem. My dh. He tasted it, didn't like it (which i don't care about that.) But what I do care about is him telling the kids that they didn't have to eat it that they could have a pb&j sandwich instead. So of course the kids go for the pb&j sandwich. But I let it go and enjoyed my dinner by myself.

DAY 7.....  Breakfast I had oatmeal, snacked on a banana, had leftovers for lunch, snacked on a few peanut butter cookies and made Chickpea cutlets w/ roasted baby potatos and green beans which turned out being a pleasant surpise. But of course the whole time I was cooking my dh was complaining even though I had some chicken in the oven for him because he couldn't hack it lol. 

He kept harrassing me saying things like why go through all this trouble and waste all this money on food that no one likes? or Why cant you just make normal food like normal people? The kids were in here while he was moaning and groaning sooooo of course they think they are having something gross for dinner. My 6 yr old started crying as soon as i said it was dinner time and refused to eat so in come dh to the rescue with chicken. I ignore it and just try to keep the peace by keeping my mouth shut and eating. But it didn't work because in started the verbal abuse.

he was making cracks about my weight and was telling me I was wasting my time that I wont lose be eating vegan and exercise. He said i was neglecting my kids by feeding them what I eat most of the time. And I tried to tell him that they do get meat and dairy sometimes but it's not a necessity they don't need it. Since they eat breakfast and lunch at school which is not healthy food at all, that I have to try and get their fruits and veggies in after they get home from school. This way it is easier, and they are learning new flavors. Sometimes they don't like it but they always eat some of it if not most of it.

Anyway Next thing I know there are dishes and food flying across the room. The kids were sent to their rooms for obvious reasons just so you guys know. He told me that he was seriously debating whether or not he wanted to stay with me and I said over food? really? and told him that he really should be listening to himself so he could hear how rediculous he was sounding. So then a chair goes flying. But it's not just any chair. It goes to my table set that not only is an antique but it also belonged to my great grandmother.  Anyway the chair broke.  Then our toddler wanted to nurse so since he was in a bad mood he of course said that it was time to stop breastfeeding and he asked if I agreed and I said no that I did not agree and he said some smart ass remark and I rolled my eyes. And he actually dared me to do it again and was holding the broom in a particular way to suggest that he would hurt me if i did.  And he said that I am going to stop breastfeeding and i am going to start making regular food and If I don't like I can leave.

I could not believe my eyes. It was as if I was watching an addict having a meltdown. I mean he has had temper tantrums before but they are few and far between and it is usually just him yelling and saying hurtful things. I am still in a bit of shock right now.

[Jessicaluvn]

Nov. 13, 2009 at 10:44 PM

sorry about the way your husband is treating you!

I could use some good vegan recipes if you have any?

[jenniamigo]

Nov. 13, 2009 at 11:26 PM

i will try to pm some to you tomorrow...i think i am calling it a night

(Original Poster)

[freedomthinks]

Nov. 14, 2009 at 1:13 AM

omg  Jen  I am so sad to hear that     I  can't imagine how hard that would be    My  man is not on my  " bandwagon"  but he does not  critizise or  tease ,     I don't  push him either  but he does try  things,

I  only have one at home and he loves chickpea cutlets 

Be strong girl    I have seen your ticker  you are losing weight   

I don't know what to say    Just   hang in there

[Lb128f]

Nov. 14, 2009 at 1:24 AM

Wow....wow. I think I'd be tempted to show him the door. I'm really sorry. His attitude and abuse was totally uncalled for...you are trying to do something good for you and your family. I do agree that the children should have choices...maybe noodles w/veggies (they can be made and in the frig) for anytime someone doesn't want what you prepare --as children their desires are going to be different sometimes with foods. And, whether he knows it or not...you WILL lose weight by going vegan! This whole scene sounds much deeper than food...I hope if you intend on staying with him you will seek counseling...NO ONE...not you or your children have to live with someone who is like this. Even when we disagree with others...there is NO excuse for the abuse. I'm sorry.