Sorry more venting

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Our daughter called & woke me up this morning to be sure that Nathan & Brandi were up getting ready for the birthday party.  She asked if we were coming to which I told her I was sick & her dad was having problems with his blood sugar.  The birthday party was for both of her kids.  JJ's birthday was November 13 & Chris's birthday is December 19.  Why have them on the same day?  I swear to God I don't think she really even likes Chris & I get the feeling that both his parents don't want him.  He is one of the most happiest babies I've known.  He is such a good baby most of the time.  He's been cutting teeth so he has been really fussy lately, what baby isn't at that time?  She & Brad always puts JJ first.  They pay more attention to her, they spoil her & think she can do no wrong.  While Chris gets put down & forgotten about until he makes a noise.  I keep him 5 mornings aweek.  We have told her a number of times to change his diaper before bringing him over.  Saturday, Nathan & Brandi kept him & they had the same complaint, so it's just not me.  He was soaked all the way through when she gave him to them.  But Vicki does better than Brad with Chris.  Why am I watching Chris & Brad is watching JJ?  He is afraid he will drop him.  When Vicki was explaining this to me I told her that was stupid & he needed to get over it.  All parents feel that way but they still take care of their baby.  She started crying & said she had dropped him.  I said so what, did she have to take him to the ER, no, did he bleed, no, did he have a bump on his head, no, did he cry, alittle bit,  so what.  Babies are not so frigle that the lest little thing will hurt them.  When I was pregnant with Nathan I knocked Travis over & he hit his head, had a bump, & was crying a whole lot & then just fell asleep.  I didn't see him under my belly.  We took him to the ER & the doctor laughed at me.  I couldn't get him to wake up & I was scared to death.  The doctor said he went to sleep bc he was sleepy & the bump was really small & will go away.  So I understand them thinking that way but they have to get over it.  So back to the party, when Nathan, Brandi & Rose came home they said it wasn't really a party.  It was Vicki & her kids, Brandi, Rose, Nathan & Grandma.  No cake & had to buy your own food.  Vicki told them the real party was at 2 over Brad's parents house.  I just want to scream.  It's not that I even want to go around Brad & his family but to be done like that  is just rude.  She had "the party" at 10 am bc the other pary starts at 2.   Who wants to eat lunch at 10 am?  I've never heard of a party in the morning.  I had 3 kids & 3 sets of grandparents.  So I gave them 3 parties which meant 3 cakes.  One party was at a kid's place with their friends & my mom & stepdad.  One party was with my dad & stepmom at their house.  One party was at Nathan's grandparents house.  I could never have my mom & dad at the same thing unless it was with a huge crowd like graduation or wedding.   It wasn't how I really wanted it but it was a way for all grandparents to share their birthday.  I did it for my kids.  I decided we would have a birthday week instead of a birthday & my kids loved it.  Travis & Nathan's birthdays were close but I would never take away from the birthday boy by making him share a party.  Travis's birthday is April 21 & Nathan's is May 11, so their birthdays aren't even a month apart like JJ & Chris's are.  But it isn't up to me so I know I should keep my mouth shut.  But it still makes me made & I need to vent about it.   We haven't gotten a present for her yet.  I wanted to buy it when we bought Elias & Rose's gifts but my dh wanted to wait until closer to her birthday.  I'm surprised that Vicki didn't ask about JJ's gift when she called but I bet she will in the morning.    I maynot be babysitting for much longer.  She told me if she misses one more day of work she will lose her job.  I asked why she has missed so much & she said it's when the kids are sick.  Now her husband doesn't work, babysits someone else's kids without pay but he can't watch his sick kid.  Come on.  It would only be for 4 hours at the most.  He is so worthless.  All 3 of my husband's would watch all the kids while I was at work.   Well, you can see why we wouldn't be invited to their house or his parents house for a birthday party. 

Nick & his girlfriend are on a trial seperation.  They are both head strong & have different ideas of how things should work.  Atleast that is what they are telling me.  I think that she is tired of being home all day & all night,  not going anywhere, having to take care of the baby mainly by herself bc he works 12 hours a night & sleeps in the day.  So they really don't spend much time together.  I think she's upset that he isn't helping her get her license back.  She had a wreck without insurance & has to pay something like $3000 to get it back.  But she could have kept that from happening if she had returned phone calls to their insurance company & set up some kind of payments.  Nick has his own issues with his driver's license & is working hard to get those taken care of.   I remember going through simular times & seperated a ton of times, atleast once a year & we were married 11 years.  I think she is calling me to tell her what she should do but I'm the last person to ask that, bc of what I went through & bc he is my baby boy.   He has been calling me too but not to ask what he should do.  I'm the one who played matchmaker & I know they could be good together.  I just have to keep my thoughts to myself or they may act like kids & do the opposite.   I knew her before Nick ever met her  & have always considered her as a daughter.  She will always be a daughter to me.   I keep telling them that relationships aren't easy for anyone, you have to work at it, some times harder than other times.  One think that they haven't been doing that I think makes a big difference is having a date night.  Since I haven't been driving & they are tight on money, they don't go out.   Everyone needs time together away from kids.   So she is staying at her dad's but I don't know where that is.  I will find out & go see her & Elias or maybe even take her out for a sandwich one day this week.   Nick will just have to understand which I'm sure he will. 

I need a vacation.  We are going to see my inlaws for Thanksgiving but we will be taking Rose with us.  She is really good if you can get passed all of her talking.  She will talk your ear off.  She is learning to make longer sentences & it's so funny to listen to her.  There are some words that I can't make out but I have more trouble with that the more tired I get.  She is a cuddly child which I love.  But boy she is starting to get a temper on her.  If her parents leave without kisses & hugs, she will run to me & just go off about it.  She's funny. 

My dil called last night.  I could here the kids in the background.  They are so cute.  She said Nina is the boss & keeps Nagi & her dad in line.  She sounds so cute.  I would love to see her in action.  I seen a video of her & she was on the floor with her butt up in the air.  She was just a shaking her butt, so cute.  It's hard to believe that Cody & Amber will be 13 in Feb.  It doesn't seem possible.  Nagi is growing out his hair so he can have a nice mohawk in the summer.  I always let my boys wear their hair what ever way they wanted.  Nick was the one who came up with some out there haircuts & he still does.  Kids are funny.   I am very thankful for my dil, she has been a real friend to me.  She seems more like a daughter. 

Life sure does take alot of twists & turns.  You just never know what will come tomorrow.  I hope that all my kids & grandkids know just how much I love them & how much they mean to me.