Irritations....

[mama2camden]

**Posted in Newcomers group**

Okay, my DD is 8 yrs old. Her biological dad has not seen her since she was 9 mo's old. Same story with his oldest child...hasn't seen her either for 8 years. No calls, no gifts, no birthday cards....he has been with his g/f for 8 yrs, they have 3 kids. I am really good friends with the mother of his oldest child (didn't used to be!!). So he disappears for 8 yrs and I had the hardest time getting him to pay support, finally they started garnishing his wages.

I have been with my husband for 3 yrs, married for 2. My DD calls him daddy...has for almost the same time we've been together. He loves her as she is his own.

ANYWAY, a few days ago, he calls his oldest daughter and wants to start seeing her again. And her mom allows it. i don't think it would be that easy for me to give in....after 8 yrs she just dropped her off and let her spend the night! He didn't call my daughter to see how she is doing, doesn't want to spend time with her...I would never allow her to. Not that suddenly! If he wanted visitation, I would be sure that I was there with my daughter for the first few months....

I would never keep her from getting to know her real father if it ever came to that. I honestly couldn't care if he ever came back into her life...But it irritates that crap out of me that he chose one daughter and not the other....am I wrong for feeling this way?