Always a Lady

[sugarmagnolia1]

 I read this tonight in a group I joined and it just really helped me. I hope it helps someone else.

 ALWAYS A LADY

A Woman's Guide To Emotional, Spiritual and Physical Maturity

·         Men base there success on what they have achieved, women bas their success on the strength of their bond with another individual.

·         A womans deepest longing in life is to experience fulfillment through relationships. Why? God created her from the rib of a man-hence the need for intimacy and closeness.

·         If a womens mind isn't renewed, a woman might try to secure a relationship through false impressions, manipulation or sexuality.

·         She will try to find new relationships to erase the pain and rejection from her past.

·         Proverbs 31 is a great place to read to learn about how to function efficiently in each role we play daily-a woman, daughter, wife, and mother.

·         The woman in Proverbs 31 couldn't have done everything she did without first having a personal relationship with God. From it she was able to trust the wisdom and anointing within her to do whatever needed to be done.

·         As a woman, you must spend time with God and cultivate your relationship with Him in order to mature spiritually, trust God more, and fulfill His plan for your life.

·         Read and study Proverbs 31 so you can understand how to position yourself as a godly woman.

·         Understand these principles about yourself:

1.       You have value.

·         Proverbs 31:10 says "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies." According to this verse, godly woman is such a rare and precious find that she is esteemed above the treasures of the world.

·         Before you can establish a relationship with someone you must understand your value.

·         Not only are you the daughter of the Most High God, but you were created to manage a household, give birth and train children, soothe and encourage your man, listen attentively with both your natural ears and the ears in your heart, and manage your time wisely while many times holding down a full time job!

·         You have the ability to be a counselor, teacher, friend, servant, manager and accountant. You are able to sense the longings within others and help them realize their dreams. In addition, you are compassionate, giving, strong and a source of joy! You have the anointing within you, making you willing, able, capable, mighty, strong, valiant, efficient, wealthy and worthy of good things. As a woman, you are so valuable to the plan of God that creation couldn't continue to exist without you!

·         Think about your words-They can either make or break your man!

·         Your mood also affects the entire household. Your mood will often set the tone for the atmosphere in the house. Your children and husband can immediately sense your happiness or displeasure. When your happy, even the blackest mood disappears! If your depressed everyone in the house feels blue. This is the result of the influential position you hold in your house.

·         Make sure you know your value and hold onto it.

·         Under no circumstances should you allow anyone, including yourself, to make you feel unworthy or less than your best.

·         You must renew your mind to the Word and pattern your life according to Gods plan.

·         In the book of Genesis, it clearly states how Eve took the piece of fruit from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil and gave it to adam to eat. However Adam had received the Word of the Lord beforehand and knew what God had instructed them: stay away from the tree! If they ate the forbidden fruit, Adam and Eve would have nothing but trouble. So what did Adam do? He let Eve take the first bite to see if Gods word was true. Adam was supposed to be the guardian of the Garden of Eden and of the woman. Adam used Eve as a guinea pig.

·         If you don't know your value, men will try to use you as a guinea pig.

·         They'll try to use you.

·         When you see who you really are, you'll begin to respect yourself and demand the same respect from others.

·         Its time to stand up for yourself and not let a smooth-talking man use you as a guinea pig! Don't let another "Adam" pull the curse over your eyes.

·         Save yourself for the sexual covenant between you and the man of God who is coming your way.

·         Seek to renew your mind and live your life as the woman of value.

2.       You are a helper.

·         Genesis 2:18 tells us that the woman was created as a help-one who aids and is suitable and equipped for every task.

·         Women have the ability through God to do whatever is necessary to get the job done.

·         Proverbs 31:11-12 tells us The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

·         This man trusts her because the Proverbs 31 woman has learned how to tap into the anointing of the helper. Behind every great man is a great woman!

·         You must realize that this anointing abides within you!

·         Being a helper doesn't mean that you fade into the shadows and make everyone else look good. Instead you have a strong position in the process of making things work efficiently as a result trust is produced.

·         If hes a man after God, and he values you and wants to treat you right, then learn to grow into your position alongside him.

·         Whatever you need to operate as a helper, God will anoint you for it!

·         Don't chase after your man.. If the anointing within you doesn't attract him or keep him coming back then hes not the right one.

·         If your single, don't wash his clothes or cook for him that's marital priviledges.

·         When challenges come your way, reaffirm how much you believe and trust him.

·         If hes made a mistake, then present the facts in love-the Lord does that with you!

·         Brag on him in front of others from time to time.

3.       You carry yourself well

·         "She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing of silk and purple. Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come" vv 22,25

·         A woman of God knows how to carry and present herself because she understands that she is a valuable and unique person.

·         She does not draw negative attentions to herself by being arrogant, prideful, loud or gaudy in appearance.

·         Don't allow a relationship determine how you look.

·         Even when your fasting, the Bible tells us to dress up, wash ourselves and look good!

·         Keep your hair styled, nails and teeth clean and add a nice aroma to your skin.

·         Whatever your willing to show, a man will think you are willing to share.

·         When you let go of the worlds system and come up to the level that you were created to operate in, life will be much better!

4.       You are not a gossip

·         "She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness" Verse 26

·         When you waste time on gossip, discontentment, and self-pity you become easily frustrated and stressed out.

·         Temper your emotions and dont allow them to get out of hand.

·         Emotions such as anger or depression can cause you to open your mouth and speak negatively about someone or something.

·         Listen to the women and the men you associate with. Does the talk between you encourage godliness?

·         Whatever they say is coming from what has been stored in their hearts.

·         Proverbs 13:20 says that if we fellowship with wise people, we will be wise; but if we keep close friendships with foolish people, we will be destroyed.

·         Your relationship with your man might be damaged right now cuz you've listened to the gossip of other women. Listening to them talking about what they would or wouldn't put up with has caused hardship between you and your man.

·         Be slow to speak and quick to hear.

·         A lady should be wise enough to know what to say and when and how to say it.

·         The more of God that you allow to grow on the inside of you the more He will help you to control those areas where you have been challenged in the past.

Experiencing Gods Best

·         We spend so much time nurturing your body , yet neglect the most important parts of ourselves-our minds.

·         As a woman, your longevity is in your reverence of God and his word.

·         You cant expect to experience success in your relationships by neglecting to align your life with Gods word. You cant compromise His Word because of some relationship you want to keep.

·         When you seek to become all that God has equipped you to be, you wont have to praise yourself-your own works will praise you(Proverbs 31:31)

·         You wont have to chase a compliment because your integrity will speak for itself.

Key Notes

·         It is important for a woman to completely understand herself and her place in a relationship. That only comes from a change in thinking by renewing the mind through the Word of God.

·         Examine areas in your life where you've not valued yourself. Then begin to work on those areas by changing your thoughts, the way you dress or take care of your body, protecting your conversations, and by helping others.

·         Proverbs 31:10 "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies."

[Lb128f]

Nov. 17, 2009 at 7:18 PM

Thanks for sharing this!

[cmorellana]

Nov. 17, 2009 at 7:47 PM

Wow. Very powerful. I am reevaluating myself now. I voted for "Popular"!