self created drama

[ilovedogs1967]

Well, I've managed to do it again! I have created a situation wherein I now have to dread the holidays with the inlaws. I will not do it though, i will not dread the holidays that were meant for my children to enjoy.

Here's the scenerio. Sister in law had a baby shower, I couldn't make it so I emailed her the day afterwards and asked if she could go to lunch because I had a present for her. That was back in October, well there was no response. Instead of leaving it alone I emailed again and then tried her cell phone and left a voice mail. No response....

I left it alone for a few weeks and then just two days  ago I sent a long email to my BIL and in it I mentioned how I had left messages trying to take Holly out to lunch and that she had ignored me and it left me confused about how to react.

No response from him either.

 

So now, I don't know how to play the holidays.  Should I ignor her? I really can't without seeing like a total witch, I mean, its a small gathering of about ten people at the in laws so its hard to ignor one person in the group without it being obvious. Should I kill her with kindness?

It just stings so much to be rejected by someone i my own family..of course I should be used to it as my own family has very little to do with me..well, any comments are welcome. My MIL did make me feel somewhat comforted the other day on the phone but I don't think that she was sincere. She said to not let something like that keep me from the holidays. Which sounds sweet but she will be all over Holly and the new baby and once again I will be snubbed...sigh...

Wish I could take a cruise during that week and just ignor the whole lot of them.

 

Any comments are welcome if anyone has any suggestions on how to handle this situation.

UPDATE**** got an email from stupid BIL, said in condecending tone that Holly was busy creating life and had to rest her body and couldn't be bothered with going to lunch, and that he would email us when the baby comes, not to come to the hospital but to make an appointment to go to their house and meet the baby after they were settled and into a routine. what an ass...told hubby and he said screw them and the baby we'd meet it at Christmas...maybe...

when we had our kids we let anyone and everyone over , we were proud of the little one and wanted to share it with the world.

what a bunch of anal boobs...hope the baby looks like a spider monkey

 

 

 

 

[mamadowns]

Nov. 19, 2009 at 5:26 PM

My sister in law and I are in wwIII right now because of something stupid.  My mother in law is also being ridiculous now too.  So crazy my holidays are never w/o inlaw drama.  Good luck! 

[jblueeyes228]

Nov. 21, 2009 at 1:33 PM

 Are you kidding?? OK, I'm saying it...She's a bitch and her hubby is a moron!! Be very careful, these types always want to bring YOU Down to THEIR Level. Blind them with Bullshit honey. Be the HAPPIEST around them as possible.( Fake it till ya make it ). Has NO OTHER woman been pregnant but her? Wow your better than that.

[ilovedogs1967]

Nov. 21, 2009 at 9:53 PM

thank you both for your comments. I have also shared with some people in my social circle, and they reacted the same. all the support has validated my hurt feelings and I am able to move forward.

It is their loss, I would be an awesome Aunt...

(Original Poster)