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i feel like a terrible mom
- Nov 20, 2009 at 6:10 PM
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so we just moved to a new town...and we live 200 miles away from our families. we really dont have any friends that we do things with.People i talk to at church yes. My mom and dad call everyday but when it comes to seeing my little boy and letting him stay the night.Hasn't happened since Memorial Day weekend. But they have plenty of time for my sister's two girls. They go and pick them up from school and the babysitter and they stay from Friday night until Sunday night or Monday morning...every weekend. So last night I called to talk to my mom and it came up in conversation. She always constantly is talking about something my sister's kids have done. And I exploded. It is not just my parents. Its the in-laws too.Last week we were at my mil's house on "vacation" and she held my son all of 3 times. My fil has seen him 3 times, last time being when he was 3 months old...and he lives in a town 30 minutes away. So my sister accused me of being selfish because I got upset because my mom never offers to keep my son. I really dont know what to do. In my heart I dont even want to be around people like this, if they make me feel this way about the situation...then when my son is old enough how is he going to feel? Not to mention that the first thing out of my sister's mouth was "well its your fault that you moved 200 miles away to get rid of drama and now you want to gripe" I just want to move even farther and never ever deal with them again. I know that is not fair to my son though. I've cried, I've yelled and to no avail. Just want everything to be "normal".
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I feel ya. I have no family, but my husbands family is like that. My husband being one of three children , he has one older sister 2 years older who shares in his feelings too. The younger brother- 16 years younger , does not wrong.
Its not the youngest brothers fault, its the m.i.l. If we talk about the new window we just put in, the youngest brother put two or or is going to. We cannot talk, or tell any stories without having to hear what he youngest has done. She doesnt realize she does it I guess, and the oldest sister and my husband talked about this just recently. Our children are 3 and 4 and youngest brothers kid is now almost 1 , and since the almost 1 year old came into our lives, everyone else went out the window lol.
Its not fair, and we are just going to let time tell, and I dont have any advice for you so IM sorry , but it does h appen, and it isnt fair. I love all my kids equally, so I dont understand how a grandparent can be so split. And your sister, she only says what she does because she is not on the bad end and she would be writing a journal here instead of you, so brush her off she wouldnt understand until she felt the emotion you do . ~Sharey
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