Death: How long should someone wait before trying to move on?

[crazymom21]

My DH's Uncle(like a dad to him) pasted away back in may from a heart attack. His SO(by marriage) is now seeing someone. Just about everyone in the family thinks its too soon for her to be seeing anyone. One of her sons won't even let his kids go see her and they live next to each other. Her other son said she is just whoring around and everyone agrees. My DH thinks its too soon for her to be moving on but he is adult enough to want her to be happy. I feel the same way. I also think Carrol would want the same thing. I've been in this same boat after my dad died. My mom and his best friend ended up getting together. It was grief that brought them together. Me and my siblings didn't like it and sometimes still don't but we want our mom to be happy. The only reason we don't like it sometimes is bc if he isn't working they have to be together. Its been almost 6 yrs and its still like that. But hey she is happy and that is all that matters. They got together officially about 4 months after my dads death. Personally if something happened to Justin I don't think I'd ever be able to move on. It would be hard too with 4 kids. I just have to hope we get to grow really old together.

[daye62]

Nov. 28, 2009 at 6:32 PM

Grief is a very personal journey and no two people move through it the same.I am certain that the late husband really doesn't want anything more than for the woman he loved to be happy and loved.People can love more than one person at a time.I think the family should keep quiet on this issue and allow this woman to heal.