Struggling to be ok with this...........

[WhiteTigerLily]

 Hubby has asked me to get my tubes tied after this baby. I agreed, and intend to do it. There are many reason why , but mostly we just can't have any more babies. We are by far rich,and tho I know we will be ok, I still worry.

 I just get sick tho every time I think about actually doing this. I don't know why. This pregnancy was a shocking surprise, and honestly I believe 3rd time is a charm. 3 children is plenty....

 Why do I have such a thing against this? Why does it affect me so much emotionally? In my head I know this is the best decision for all involved. My kids deserve the best of everything, and if I keep having children, there is less to go around (financially).

 I wanted children so bad, at one time I was told I would never have ANY, and now I will have 3!!

 I just am trying so hard to be okay with this all the way around. I know it's best , and I can't have any more kids. This baby is proof that I can get pregnant w/o medication and w/o trying, which means this could happen again........

 I don't want to suffer from any depression or anything because I have this done and then regret it........... I just don't know what to do!!

[MSugarKane]

Nov. 28, 2009 at 8:39 AM

Tubals are reversable

[WhiteTigerLily]

Nov. 28, 2009 at 8:45 AM

Yes they are, But I would NEVER be able to afford to reverse it, even if I wanted to. It just scares me to do something so very "permanent" =(

(Original Poster)

[MunchiesMom324]

Nov. 28, 2009 at 8:49 AM

I completely understand... everyone wants me to get mine tied... I have 3 kids... but I'm still young (I'm only 24) and I dont know if I'm done having kids.  Everyone thinks that 3 is more than enough... Maybe not for me.  I cant do anything so permanent... so im on BC shot.  So far its working...(i hope)... :)

[pagentkween2]

Nov. 28, 2009 at 9:06 AM

Have ya'll conaidered an IUD?  Those are amazing.  I had the one that had no hormones in it (paragaurd) and loved it!  You can even get pregnant as soon as they take it out!

[Betsy858]

Nov. 28, 2009 at 9:56 AM

I have to say it really comes down to you. Youy have to be o.k. with it. I was 100 percent in favor of it. It was my idea. I have no regrets. If you have worries or doubts then wait. But for me after my second baby I new it was what I WANTED and I have never regreted it.

[almemoore]

Nov. 28, 2009 at 2:44 PM

if you show this post to your OB/GYN they will NOT recommend a tubal for you.  When I had considered one, they asked LOTS of questions to make sure that I was 100% sure.  We ended up not doing it because although it is "cheaper" than another baby, right now we can't afford to drop our deductible plus 20%.  So I am staying on the pill until income tax time. You need to be 100% yes, that's it, no more, I don't mind making a permanent decision.

[daye62]

Nov. 28, 2009 at 6:14 PM

If you are not 100% sure that,no matter what happens in your life,you will NEVER want another child,do not do this! This includes some tough possibilities to consider:the death of your spouse and a possible remarriage,a divorce,something happening to one or all of your children.I know it's horrible but life is uncertain.If you even suspect that you would want another child in any of these scenarios then do not proceed.Has your hubby considered a vasectomy? The recovery is much easier and your options will still be open.Either of these procedures are permanent;don't consider them reversible.Remember it's your body.

[Daynara]

Nov. 28, 2009 at 10:26 PM

I decided to have my tubes tied after this one mainly because this will be our fourth and all the birth control that i have tried has not worked. So, i decided to have this done. It is tearing me up inside to have to do it but i can not have anymore. 4 is more than enough for us and we can not afford anymore for sure. it is bothering me to have end this phase of our life and move on to our next one. i hate this but here it goes in 3 days the baby will be here and then it will be done. I think that in a year or two i will be ok with it because that is what happened with Conor. i was ok with us not having any more kids and then here this baby is.

[ezear2000]

Nov. 29, 2009 at 1:00 PM

Honestly I am in the same boat although hubby isn't persistent but we are on our 4th baby (well 5th but our baby Hunter passed away at 4 days old)

We really can't afford anymore but at the same time I am terrified to get my tubes tied-- I think that part of it is the baby we lost and then to not EVER have any more children when they are such a blessing... so not sure!

I Have told him to get the vascetomy(sp??) but where we live we would have to pay for that ourselves and the tubal is free.

Well I do have 2 more months to think about it, sorry I wasn't more help!