Need to vent...pregnant and aggravated.

[Daynara]

Ok, so I am about 39 weeks. I will be having this baby on Wednesday if he/she does not come any sooner. I am so worried about everything and everyone is so calm and collected. My babysitter backed out because of his gf wont let him come and stay like he promised before they got together. She said that he needs to focus on his family not us, this is my brother that she is talking about and the kids that she has are not his so why does he have to stay down there with her when he promised that he would be here for me. My mom can't come and watch and the kids because my step-dad can not be by himself and I have a 14 year old brother that she has to take back and forth to school. My mother-in-law flat out refuses to come and never even offered. When I asked her reasoning is that she can't do it. I made arrangements for my daughter to walk to the bus stop with my neighbor all she would have to do is make sure that she is up and ready to go when the neighbor walks by and send her out the door to her and my neighbor would send her up the driveway when she walks by at the end of the day. I bought easy to make meals like pizza, corn dogs and tater tots, chicken and rice. I mean this is easy stuff just make sure that they are fed and clean when they go to bed and no one wants to help us. My husband is having to stay home from work for three days to take care of them because of this. i hope that he does not lose his job because of this. I mean he will have my hospital papers and the confirmation of birth to show them but still, we NEED that money. I am so afraid that i am going to have to go through surgery by myself. I do not think that I am strong enough for that. I do not understand why when I need my family the most that they are not going to be here for me. Then again I should be used to it they tend to do this all the time.

Anyway, so on to the other things that are bothering me atm. I feel so constapated that it is not funny, I have been tired all day and having contractions all week. The baby has not been moving much all day, I know that he/she is fine because he/she has the hiccups right now. I just am having some pain in that area there is really only way to describe and it is like tmi so I will change the color if you want to see highlight it: It feels like when you are having sex but you are not quite wet enough and the stretching and burning feeling only it is starting up inside instead of at the openin  So I am not really sure if I should contact the doctor or just sit around till tomorrow when I have my preop appointment. i wonder if they are going to check me? I guess that is enough for now and I will stop ranting. Any advise please.g.

[Sunni31]

Nov. 29, 2009 at 8:45 PM

Hello there, and nice to "meet" you.   I'm also pregnant - I will be 38 weeks tomorrow.   So sorry to hear you're having such a rough time with family.  Sounds like your brother's gf is just a bit self-centered.  You'd think as a mom herself, she could be a little more understanding...

We don't have a ton of support here, either.  I don't even speak to my mother.  My partner's family is huge - but they're not close.  I have two sons, who are both special needs... they'll be staying with their father while I'm in the hospital because nobody else knows them well enough to take care of them overnight.  I'm hoping I don't end up in the hospital for very long - and I hope the same for you!!

Are you being induced if you don't go before Wed?  I'm very much hoping that I go on my own and don't have to be induced! 

[Sunni31]

Nov. 29, 2009 at 8:47 PM

Oh... and my guess is, that feeling is probably normal.  Can you call the L&D floor at your hospital and speak to a nurse?  Might help set your mind at ease.  Hormones do strange things to your body in preparation for giving birth... trust me... I know... lol!

[Daynara]

Nov. 29, 2009 at 9:00 PM

I was thinking that it was normal but I have only went through partial labor, i never got past a 6 and I do not remember anything from it except being surprised that it didn't hurt worse and my water broke in a gush that was why I ended up in the hospital in the first place. I have a girl and two boys and they have been born by c-section. It is bery hard to sit here and wait on the baby to come or for the surgery to get here. The doctors wanted to do it last wednesday but I wanted to keep the holiday as normal as possible for the two year old. He has only been away from me for about 2 nights total since he was born. He had RSV when he was 6 weeks old and i have always freaked about him staying away from me. I am jsut worried about how he will do without me here and his dad is a good dad but when i am here he does not pay as much attention to them as I do and I am afraid that will stay that way when I am not here and i have been trying to keep the house as clean as possible and it is not working. So I am really worried that i am going to come home to a nasty house and the kids are not going to be bathed everynight and i have not idea. i know that this is not right and I am sure that it will not happen but still I worry about it.

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