Torn

[newmommytiffany]

Okay, no bashing ladies please just looking for some advice or to get this off of my chest. I just had my first baby, a boy, in October and I can't believe how easy it is having a baby cause I mean its not like the horror stories my parents were telling me about how hard it's going to be with him and school. I'm seventeen and will be eighteen in January and graduate in May... When I go to the mall and stores and I see all these other women that are pregnant, even though it sounds kind of ridiculous, it makes me miss being pregnant! I had a wonderful pregnancy, a little morning sickness and was kind of uncomfortable during the last few months, but other than that it was great.

So, anyways, because I've been seeing all these pregnant women and miss being pregnant it REALLY wants me want to ttc#2 already :)  I know that sounds ridiculous considering mine is only a month old and I'm young but I can't help it. I would love a little girl, but does it just sound like I'm crazy and sounding a bit irresponsible? I have no idea why I'm feeling all this and wanting another one so badly so very quickly but I honestly can't help it. My mom would freaking kill me if I ended up pregnant again before I was eighteen and out of school... I don't know what to do, I'm so torn. And my fiance, he's only twenty, and he said he doesn't want another one anytime soon - he is saying in another year or two we could talk about it, and whenever I am like "i want a little girl next", he immediately changes the subject and gives me a look like I'm the craziest woman ever to live on planet Earth ha ha.

So what should I do? I need advice here ladies, please help!

[Krystallized]

Nov. 29, 2009 at 9:29 PM

Speaking from someone who had her 1st child before she was 18, please wait before having another. For many reasons.... 1) your body really needs time to heal. 2) It's so much harder to give your kid(s) the best of everything if you're not secure yourself. Get yourself your own place, take the time to enjoy the baby you have now and see what happens in another year or two. You really haven't hit the real world on your own long enough to understand what your parents were trying to tell you. My family used to same the same thing. I laughed at her, now I wish I had listened. LOL. It isn't easy.... give yourself a little time :)

[drherrmann]

Nov. 29, 2009 at 9:40 PM

I agree with Krystallized. Your body is going through tons of changes right now. Your emotions are "out-of-wack" This all comes when you just have a baby. I had post-partum depression when I had my DD. If you are still feeling this way I would talk to a Dr.

[debmom07]

Nov. 29, 2009 at 9:40 PM

yeah really BREATHE your hormones are nuts right now. Just cuz #1 was easy they are not all the same. I think the above Krystallized really put it well. Yes I get baby fever, but it will pass. plz dont rush your body needs 2yrs to repair. Babies reek havic on your body. The more kids you have the less time you have with each of them. Just take it easy and enjoy your little sweet one. In time you will have more, just for now hold off. God bless

[lastraw]

Nov. 29, 2009 at 9:41 PM

Sounds like you are having postpartum depression...You need to let your body heal for at least a year before you go getting prego again...you want to be a mama instead of go to college...thats fine...I did it too, but you really need to let your body heal.

[Redteux]

Nov. 29, 2009 at 9:59 PM

Wait.

My first was very easy, too.  But my second, born 22 months later, kicked the pace up.

A lot.

Mommy-hood gets harder as you progress.

Trust me.

[souldolphin]

Nov. 30, 2009 at 7:16 AM

Adding another child into the mix is alot of hard work.  I would give yourself a year to get to know the child that you just had.

[newmommytiffany]

Nov. 30, 2009 at 1:04 PM

wanting another child this early is considered a sign of post partum depression? that doesn't make sense...

(Original Poster)

[Hotmomma038]

Dec. 3, 2009 at 9:42 AM

I would have to say just wait at least a year b4 talking about another baby. Enjoy this one. If you get pregnant again so soon, you will miss out on so much. Just enjoy this time with your little one bc once it is gone, u can never  get it back. Bond with ur son and enjoy this time being a mom. In a couple of years talk. Having 2 children is a lot of work, takes a lot of time and patience, and most of all money.  As I feel Krystallized put it best. You are only 17, you have plenty of time to have more children, just enjoy your son.