Missing Pieces ????

[seasidegrandma]

 Yesterday I got a nasty e-mail from my Father-in-law  accusing me of ruining another Holiday for him and his wife (my in-laws). There is always a missing piece somewhere and when explanations are offered, they are not accepted.

I was told that my daughter had a lot of nerve worrying that her grandmother may die before she can see her again and this was nobody's business to say. Actually she said she wanted to see her this side of heaven and was worried that she wouldn't. It was said that how dare she(my daughter) invite herself to her aunt's home when they were busy people working and performing funerals. They  wanted to know why after only a card or letter twice in 2 years, she would worry about seeing them now. Since she went off to college 12 years ago, she always tried to see everyone in the family when she came home for the Holiday.

My DH said that I should not worry about this. He said that his dad has always been this way. But I do care. They hurt me and people that I love. I do love them too!  No one will talk to each other and the nasty e-mail said more than I want to say here. I wouldn't be a Christian if I did.

I pray that God will guide me on my next step. I am not sure what to do next. There were many years I went where I didn't want to for my husband's wishes. I would have liked to take turns with our families but both my DH and daughter insisted we go to the in-laws for Christmas dinner.

I know I am venting here and I just want to celebrate our Savior's birth this year. I am not perfect. I made mistakes, but I want to move ahead and forgive those who hurt me. Too many years, Christ was left out of our Celebrations. DH refuses to call his father and said if he upset me, then he won. He wants to move on and just  ignore them and enjoy us being together. I hope that we can mend  the hurt before it goes on too long and can't be mended.

 

[Toby6IOU1]

Jan. 14, 2010 at 12:00 AM

 You are a Precious Jewel in God's sight! I thank God He Joined Our Paths. I know what you were going through, I pray your Baby got to see her Grandmom & extended family knows how important God's Time Is. Love You Dear & Precious Sis.