Seeking Support from Anti-CIO Moms

[mamaluv19]

Anti CIO I do not let my son cry "it" out. If a baby needs to expell energy for bedtime, fine, encourage activity; play games, get him to kick his legs etc. Why must we let them cry the energy out alone? Babies dont need to cry themselves to sleep. I do not see why temporarily abandoning your child until they no longer cry for you, accept you're not coming for them, and simply cry themselves to sleep is necessary. It seems to me that this is more convenient for the parent than is for baby. I hold my baby until he falls asleep every night and have never had bedtime issues. I understand that some argue that babies need to learn how to self soothe...babies can do just that when you can distinguish between a fuss or if he's crying for you. I don't jump to his every peep, but I will guarantee that I will fill his need for love and comfort, even when it is bedtime. If that labels me as spoiling my son, then I am a proud spoiling mamma. This is my gut feeling from the pit of my stomach and from the bottom of my heart, I cannot ignore it. I truly hope from the heavens above I am doing the best thing for my son. I am looking for some support, any support from other moms with the same point of view. Please come to my aide and reassure me that I am not creating "a monster" as my hubby and father-in-law proclaim. I get the finger pointed at me because I carry my baby in a sling all day (on my back). I get all my cleaning/cooking done with him close to me and we both love it and he goes days without crying and honestly I love the bond and if I am willing to put extra effort into wearing him all the time then it shouldn't bother people it doesn't concern. But I can't say this without causing trouble in family. Please help! I would especially like advice from a mom who has an older child and has similar views about crying it out. But I would appreciate anyones feedback. Thanks for reading.