WOW, he just "Came Out" to me the other night!

[babymomma0306]

It was rather uneventful. We've been really close friends since I was 11 years old. I won't use his name because I'm one of the first he has told. I was chatting with him on facebook and he told me to look at his photos at some picture of one of his friends. he told me he needed to tell me something that's been bugging him for awhile. So I told him I was on that pic and he said "meet " " my boyfriend". I was surprised but not shocked honestly. He said "wow I did it". Then asked me how I felt. I told him I love him no matter what. And that I already kinda suspected it. He was surprised and asked why I never asked him then. I told him that I figured when he was ready to tell me he would and until then it was none of my business. He laughed and said that sounds like me and that's why he loves me so much. I told him the only thing I ask is that if he brings him over to the house they not be all "kissy" around my kids because they're young and wouldn't understand yet. He was very cool about it and understood and said that all they need to know is that he's his best friend. I asked him why he was afraid to tell me and he said he already lost one friend over it and didn't want to lose as good of a friend as me too. I told him he knows my view on being gay and that it wrong. That being said no one is without sin and I'm in no place to judge him anymore then he is no judge me. And there's nothing he can do that would change how I feel about my honorary big brother and I still love him. He thanked me and said he loves me too and how happy he is with how this conversation went. So I guess it went good. Feel free to comment but this is not a gay/non gay argument post and those comments will be deleted. Also no attacks against my friend.NONE!!!

*If by chance this looks familiar it's because I posted it over the weekend. A friend of mine asked me to repost it on Monday morning, along with the previous comments left on it, not sure why but I did.

[babymomma0306]

Nov. 30, 2009 at 10:40 AM

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Nov. 28, 2009 at 10:30 AM

(Original Poster)

Nov. 28, 2009 at 10:46 AM

1) You realize bump does nothing for journal posts right? Sorry, I just don't understand why people bump journal entries when it does nothing.

2) I am glad your friend is finally comfortable being himself. I know how hard that can be (wrote a journal entry about it last night actually).

3) I am glad to hear you are not all homophobic. Too many are nowadays and it is sad.

 

Nov. 28, 2009 at 10:57 AM

Yes, I know it does nothing. It's actually I running joke with a friend of mine and me and that's why I do it. I'm now going to check out your journal :)

(Original Poster)

Nov. 28, 2009 at 12:11 PM

i think it is great you were so cool about it. i am sure just being his friend not judging him makes him feel so much better about it. good for you mama!!

 

Nov. 28, 2009 at 5:12 PM

Very cool...I'm glad you were supportive!

 

Nov. 28, 2009 at 9:01 PM

Cool!

 

Nov. 28, 2009 at 10:27 PM

Like ur post - good that you are being his friend in being understanding yet at the same time recognizing that it is wrong but sin is sin regardless of what sin it is. If only all of us could recognize that. Lies, murder, stealing, etc are all equal. Thanks for sharing this post!

 

(Original Poster)

[wrensong]

Nov. 30, 2009 at 11:07 AM

I once had a close friend tell me she was a lesbian. She was afraid we would no longer be friends after that. I told her I didn't care who she slept with as long as they were both consenting adults. After that our friendship continued as before. Eventully she felt comfortable enough to bring her girlfriend around and it wasn't at all weird.

That was 13 years ago and we are still good friends.

I am sure your friend appreciates your support more than you know.

[Lb128f]

Nov. 30, 2009 at 1:43 PM

Thanks!

[Liansmommie]

Nov. 30, 2009 at 3:02 PM

I am glad your friend felt comfortable enough that he  was able to be honest with you about something so important to him. All other considerations aside that is the best  part of friendship. You are a good friend.

Also, kind of OT, but bump does do something for journals.  It bumps the journal to the top of the recent comments page, which can mean, depending on the time of day, that more people see it.