What a year!

[choco5]

Has anyone ever had an entire year just be terrible?  After such a crazy year Im definitely looking forward to 2010 in hopes that it will be better.  In the beginning I was still dealing with back/leg problems which had extended from 2008. I finally saw the right doctor and after finding out I had 2 herniated disks, finally had the surgery for that in June. And because of the pain pre/post surgery my daughters (2&3) was away most of the year with grandparents, I was able to see them 4 times across the summer. Two of those times was because a family friend had passed and my grandad passed about 3wks later.  The last trip (5th) was to bring them back but by that time I was getting ready for divorce (after 12yrs). Since that time I've had court and moved in an apartment which carried my husband's name on the lease.  I had to quit my job  in Feb (preparing for surgery) and the agreement was my husband was to support me until I was able to go back to work.  Back to the apartment: well his name was put on the lease so I can get the place, and because the military is sending him somewhere else in January, he refuses to sign the lease. Since I haven't been working for 6mos, I cant stay in the apartment, only if he signs. I had paid movers to bring the furniture, etc, gotten cable and internet, rent and everything. And I've only been here a month.  So its almost Christmastime, I'm going to be moving to a hotel with my three kids. I have no family here, Im in my last semester of school and taking my last 4 classes.  The issue isn't being able to pay rent, its because I haven't been working for six months. So Im looking for apartments that doesn't go by how long u have worked. I know there are some that exists.  I have put in applications for a while now but no calls. Im worried about my kids, I cant send them back to my mother-n-law (evil) she had threaten to get me for neglect when she had the kids this summer. But I had had surgery and have never had her keep them for that long. Im stressed with school, this apartment, a job, his mom, my mother doesn't like dealing with kids, and she have yet offered any help.Its the holidays!  I've never in my life thought I'd be going through this...Im not a bad person, so I dont understand. I pray, I get up on Sunday and go to church, I believe in paying tithes. Maybe its a test.  I know not everyone has the same beliefs but... I know everyone has issues that they have to deal with but when will it get better?

[Wysteria]

Dec. 1, 2009 at 6:32 AM

My sentiment exactly.. when WILL it get better? lol.  I don't have the same problems as you, mine is a divorce that has been going on for a YEAR now. My soon to be ex has called the dog warden on me and DCF. He kept the lightbill in his name, and the light company wont let me change it over until HE gives the O.K... then he stopped paying it back in september. I'm from South Carolina, he had the great idea of moving up to Connecticut so now I am stuck here until the divorce is final. If I leave, even for a visit to my own mothers, I cannot take my children or it is "kidnapping". I haven't seen my moma for over a year now. Last new years, he went against the restraining order I had put on him and the criminal case is STILL being drug out. UGH! so yes... I know how you feel!!!  And if this is a test, I want my reward!!!!