Now that I've been working a few weeks, I have some perspective about this working out of the home thing.  I haven't really worked out of the home for years excluding the short time I worked as a dietary aide in a nursing home about a year ago... now I'm in a job I love, is fine on my body as far as wear and tear goes, and fits into my family's "hours" of convenience so I'm sticking around for the long haul. I work midnight to 8 AM, full time.

But I tell you something... it's odd going from SAHM to full time work out of the home mom in ways I never anticipated.

I knew I'd miss the kids and sleep.  I knew that my husband would probably flounder a bit as a SAHD until he found work simply because he's not used to running a house.  In fact, he told me the other day that he didn't know how I did it for so many years, lol.  Felt nice that those years were appreciated, lol.


I didn't expect to feel weird coming home.

See, I had a schedule of sorts.  I used to know everythign that was going on at home.  I had a day to do laundry, a time to have dinner on, to do dishes, to have the kids do homework, when to clean the bathroom, etc.

Now everything's different.  Mike does the housework, the laundry gets done willy nilly, I can't find anything and I kind of feel like an outsider in my own home watching it run without me.

If it ran the way I ran it, it wouldn't feel so weird, but it's running on a whole new system now that I'm unfamiliar with, lol.  Does that make any sense?

Now that I'm used to the full time hours, the schedule, I am literally going to have to sit down and figure out my home schedule.  And when Mike starts working, too, it's going to change again.

That's the only part of this I don't like... I love the money, the getting out of the house, the hours, the work... but I really need to find my place in my own home again now.

Weird.  And unsettling.  Anyone else go through this? Any advice on how to make things run more smoothly, something that worked for you?

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Dec. 1, 2009 at 7:31 AM

No one even your DH will ever run your household the way you do.  I am very organized and really dislike when things aren't done the right way, (my way) but have learned that there could be other ways that other people will do chores and its a matter of adjusting your mind process to allow others to help with the house. Its their house too.  


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Dec. 8, 2009 at 7:41 PM

I just am coming off full-time night shift - from a a sahm and self-employed massage therapist in 2010. It is so hard to do that shift and have family. I swiched up the schedule so many times and still could not get it to work-so I'm quiting. I hope it works out well for you tho!

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May. 22, 2010 at 10:28 AM

When I went back to work I had the same feeling. It took a long time for me to get on a new schedule and all that jazz. I love my job and I love my family and I think now that I have gotten into a new groove everyone has benefited.

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