Need an Opinion or Two

[JusNikki]

So my DH comes in from class this evening with this huge bag of candy and a separate bag of candy for my daughter Makenna. Personally, I don't think it's fair that my DH got Makenna something and didn't buy Justin anything. I told my DH the right thing to do is put the candy away because it's going to cause an argument between the kids. DH is insisting that Justin will be fine with it, and I asked are you really home because obviously your my mind is somewhere else when the kids are fighting over everything. I have a rule if you can't buy both something don't buy anything at all simple as that (besides birthdays of course). So am I wrong for putting the candy away to spare my son feelings or should I let my DH handle the situation because I'm all ready prepared to say I told you so!? Let me know what you think, I also created a little poll as well.

Thnx..

****UPDATE****

Okay, so the kids woke up this morning and eventually spotted the candy, my kids don't eat candy often, so the can spot candy in the house immediately. DH explained to Justin that his grandmother (who I can't stand, but that's another story)  bought Makenna candy, and the other bag of candy he would share with him. Dh then asked will he be okay if Makenna had her own bag of candy, so at first Justin said no, then he's says well I guess it's okay. But then Makenna flips out  and was like "Daddy I want the candy everyone else has" and I looked at him and he already knew what my facial expression meant lol! So in the end neither one of the kids got candy because they started flipping out. Thanks everyone for your input we're here to agree and disagree. I respect everyone votes and comments!

Thanks so much <3

[coffeegirl74]

Dec. 2, 2009 at 11:43 PM

No, I don't think you were wrong at all. It would be different if your husband was spending the day with that child as their special day and doing the daddy daughter date or something. (as long as he made time to do the same with the other child)  To just come home and give one kid something and not the other can send a really negative message to the child being left out. That's just my opinion.

[JusNikki]

Dec. 2, 2009 at 11:46 PM

Thanks, I feel the same way! My DH is being a guy and doesn't think it's wrong, but he's not home when these two are bickering about the littlest thing! I can't wait to say "I told you so"  lol!

(Original Poster)

[Midnite00]

Dec. 2, 2009 at 11:48 PM

And being a momma of girls... let me tell you if he does give that to her she will tease her brother so bad!!

[beanielips]

Dec. 3, 2009 at 1:15 AM

I don't know.  Sometimes things are not fair and not even.  I know that there are OFTEN times here that one kid gets something and another doesn't... and it is only me.  It is just the way that things work out.  Yeah, they might bicker about it, but then I just explain that not everyone gets the same things all the time.  If the one that got something was taunting (ha, ha, I got this and you didn't) she would lose it.  I would also explain that just because we have "more" than someone else, we don't rub it in their face.

[GinaPQueen]

Dec. 4, 2009 at 10:37 AM

I agree about the taunting, but that's another post.  My 12 year old stays up 30 mins longer than the 4 year old.  This is on school nights.  So the 12 year old, the other night says....HA HA!  I get to stay up longer than you!  So guess what?  He went to bed too!  I do this in any circumstance of teasing.