MY HUSBAND REFUSES TO....

[ABRAMSMAMI]

HAVE SEX WITH ME BECAUSE I'M OVER WEIGHT! I FEEL SO BAD BECAUSE THE WAY HE'S ACTING BECAUSE OF MY WEIGHT. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE. I WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT SO BAD BUT NOT FOR HIM FOR ME!!! I HATE THE WAY I LOOK!!! I NEED SUPPORT AND SOMEONE THAT HAS BEEN WHERE I'M AT NOW. SO IF YOU'RE READYING THIS PLEASE HELP ME!! I'M 53 POUNDS OVER WEIGHT!! I WEIGH 193 !!! CAN SOMEONE HELP ME THROUGH THIS STRUGGLE? THANK LADIES FOR READYING THIS

[Dani32]

Dec. 3, 2009 at 3:12 PM

Although my hubby never complained, I was uphappy with myself for gaining so much weight.  One day, I woke up and said "things will change."  I did my research online about losing weight.  I went from a size 18 to 10 in 3 months.  I used sparkspeople.com.  I wish you luck.  When you make ur mind up, you will do this..

[sati769leigh]

Dec. 3, 2009 at 3:18 PM

I would say get a divorce lawyer. cause he is an ASS , if my husband refused to have sex with ME based on my size i would never want to have sex with HIM again period. if your husband doesnt love you for who are inside, then he is a dog.

[bikerchickmommy]

Dec. 3, 2009 at 3:19 PM

first off YOUR HUBBYS A JERK!!!! i'm sorry its just my OP. i having a little weight but thats doesn't stop my hubby and i from having a good time, if you know what i mean, lol

and second i want to loose it for myself too. my hubby never pressures me to lose weight. he knows that i'll do it when i'm ready. i just joined a group here on CM, WORK IT OUT SEXY MAMA. i'm giving my self a month to kinda bindge because of the holiday. and then i intend on starting starting to make myself feel better. i'm not doing it just for my hubby i'm doing it so i can feel better about myself and not feel like i'm such a flabby old mama.

even though i'm only 27 and need to loose maybe 30 pounds

if you would like PM me and we'll do this togather. not for our hubbys but for US.

its up to you but i'm here if you need me.

[Secret_Santa]

Dec. 3, 2009 at 3:29 PM

First of all, I must say who does your husband thinks he is. Refusing something to you just because the way you look is wrong. HE married you for who you are not what he sees on the outside. Does he not realize he took vows. No where did it talk about weight. Sorry but when men are that shallow, it makes me so mad. It just shows how neive and ignorant they can really be.

But on another note here, you should like yourself regardless how you look. You are a beautiful person inside and out, that is the way you need to look at things. I have been there and still am. I have been trying to lose my weight, but I do it just for me no one else. One thing you have to look at is once you lose your weight or once you start..are you doing it more for him or for you. If any of it is for him..that is wrong cause if he can't accept you for you regardless how you look..then I would be rethinking things. Sorry I don't mean to sound rude really I don't, but as I have stated before I HATE when men pull that crap...

If he denies you something that is suppose to be special and shared between a couple, then is he looking else where to get those needs met.

[kaitalynn]

Dec. 3, 2009 at 3:55 PM

Tell him that he doesn't deserve YOU!!! If he is so anal about your size (which is hardly overweight AT ALL) rather than your personality he isn't worth your time. I know that you probably love him half to death but he obviously isn't committed to the same effort to love you, despite whatever weight you are. I hope you find a man who loves you for what you are REALLY worth.