Forgotten casualties of war

[melimommy2three]

 6 years of war and every one has forgotten the casualties it has taken, not only the soldiers but their family's they leave behind. Some of the casualties come back physically but not mentally. They come back mentally dead, not the same person you once knew. It is like you did lose your loved one when he or she was over sea's. It feels like a death. Your loved one leaves for over sea's for 12 to 15 months mean time you wait for those short phone calls that last seconds to maybe a few minutes just to believe your loved one is OK. You hold on to those phone calls because that call may be your last. Those calls are your faults sense that every thing is OK You have no idea what or who will come home to you. As those months go on you get those calls of those who where lost while over sea's. You see a car pull up in your military neighborhood just hoping they wont walk to your door. Your best friend or neighbor next door screams and fall to her knees as she hears it was hers. You fall to your knees thanking god it wasn't yours. Very bitter sweet. The worst feeling is to tell your child or children that daddy will be home soon and you cross your fingers that it wont be a lie. To look in your child's  eyes as the tears roll enough to fill the ocean. The day comes your loved one is coming home. You believe when your husband comes home you will have him back at last. The truth is your wrong WAY wrong. You open your eyes to a stranger next to you. You don't even know him any more. Your once alarm clock that buzzed in the morning is now replaced with screams. You wake to your husband curled up in a corner screaming of war. The war is now in your home, you battle to have your loved one back with no return. Those eyes you once staired DEEP into with loving eyes are now BLANK and DEEP as black HOLES. Not only does the soldier become a casualty of war but the family becomes one as well. The soldier becomes very violent and you don't know who that person is that is drowning him self in booze and drugs trying to forget what he seen and done. Your heart breaks more and more every day watching the destruction that is going on. You realize that you lost your loved one over sea's and he is now dead. He is a empty SHELL of a MAN who once was. The violence gets worse and you don't know what to do, you reach out to your loved one and his responds is cold and dark " YOU DON'T UNDER STAND." The soldier pushes farther and farther AWAY and responds with yet more violence. The PUNCHES get harder and the words CUT deeper as time goes on. The war still has not gone away. The FAMILY is BROKEN, she (the wife) sits and crys for her lost man. Her tears flow as abundant as the sea. She pulls her chin up and grabs her kids by their lil hands as they walk away with their BROKEN hearts. There are MANY casualties of war, most many of you don't realize just how many really that have been lost. Some of those come home as MINE did and suck themselves in booze, drugs and violence. Who are on the streets or STILL in our MILITARY barracks but EMPTY SHELLS OF MEN. some thing MUST  be done for ALL of the FORGOTTEN  casualties of this LONG WAR. The soldiers suffer PTSD as do the FAMILYS of the SOLDIERS. ALOT has been TAKEN during this war, ALOT of FAMILYS destroyed. NO ONE STOPS TO THINK OF THE DAMAGE TO THE FAMILYS, THE TOLL THIS WAR HAS TAKEN IN DEAD AND LIVING.

[lovemyboys66]

Dec. 9, 2009 at 8:18 PM

Thank you for this post ... my son just returned from Afghanistan in april and he went through ALOT while over there and YES he has been diagnoised as PTSD and with anxiety  things he NEVER had before ........ please keep ALL service people in your prayers !

[melimommy2three]

Dec. 10, 2009 at 11:49 AM

All military people weather soldier or family of soldier is always in my prayers... I believe some thing MORE must be done for them.. Me as a X military wife knows what you are going through seeing your family member hurting from the war.. I will forever be thankful for your son and my X husband... those men and women are true heros and SHOULD GET BETTER CARE AFTER THEY COME BACK FROM WAR...

(Original Poster)