Neighborhood moms are sure strange round these parts

[RachelleNH]

I'm really upset about the way the neighborhood mothers have been treating me..Today at the bus stop one of them I don't know says to me " You don't belong here. You're parking in MY spot..I like to get right home you know" Okay this is funny to me because she lives like a block away-I live 1 1/2 miles! Plus, I didn't know that we had "assigned seating" Brother..I was dwelling on this, when I started to wonder if a few others haven't been doing some nasty gossiping about me..so here's the deal-Okay, so I live with my mom at this point..I never meant to stay this long (I was going to rebuild after the divorce and get an apt.)  but she's in bad health and needs me. She has quite a few animals-5 horses, 30 birds, 2 dogs and a few cats. Now, here's the deal-. Her home is in an estate sudvision, consisting of 5 acre parcels. By no means are any of these people rich, they're just ok.  Having kids, I've gotten to meet a few of them...and I was shocked. A lot of them are stay at home moms who drive BMW's and Mercedes..I drive a 10 year old Saturn that has seen it's day and then some! and obviously I'm an outcast here. But who makes the rules? My daughter is not a perfect student, she has some issues with math...she does her best but is not really popular or on the honor roll like the other kids around here are. I thought that was a big part of it at first, but read on..So One of these moms in particular here is the one who started all this I'm thinking-and I'm going to go on about this drama..Last year, my daughter got close with her daughter...they started texting and hanging out all the time. You know, the things kids do..Well, after a few times of this-I get this phone call-mind you I didn't know the lady yet..really! The mother in ranting and raving at me...Hi, how are you too?! Geeze! so her main complaint is that her daughter needs "healthy boundaries" which she explains means that she's not allowed to see anyone outside of school or text as I was explained this...she goes on to complain that Shelley has been texting constantly...so thinking Shelley is going overboard- I confiscate her phone, and come to find out-this kid AND her mother have been sending my daughter nasty texts...So I go on to confront the mother and she tells me this: "I'm sorry, I haven't been too clear headed lately..I'm on pills you see..for depression, etc..She's hysterically crying telling me her and her hubby have issues and he beats the kids and she's been drinking, doing drugs and trying to forget her uncle raping her." NO kidding-she says all this in 1/2 hour's time...so I'm thinking this woman needs help...first to tell a stranger this..nonetheless a daughter's friend's mom.Then I'm thinking she just needs an ear...I'm still shocked about the conversation and it bothers me to this day. It ended so oddly... So I decided that Shelley needs to just talk at school and avoid this household...

no more was heard about all that UNTIL>...another mom calls me up and tells me that this mom 2 houses down is badmouthing me?! WTF? Talk about drama...so they're now claiming that my daughter is a self-centered little brat and to avoid her because "she's not from a healthy two parent household and obviously has problems at home" Whoa, where did all that come from? Well, that same mom in the beginning pried out of shelley that her dad isn't around and that he doesn't get visitation because of prior child abuse ...so she found out  that I'm  broke, single income and a single, divorced mom with full custody of my kids...yeah she had a bad dad..but he's been gone for 5 years now...but so what? There's lots of kids out there like that, right? After what that mom told me I'm thinking my situation is WAYYY better. So...I'm trying to sort all this out and I don't understand any of it.

Then there's more-I find out how they really found about about my kids dad...one neighbor is a cop..and from what I hear from our elderly neighbor next door- he runs everyone's tag...well,turns up- he ran mine, and told everyone! At the time he ran it,  I was just going through the divorce and still had my married name-after a year of being separated...so he got all the info on the restraining order and violent history I had with this guy. Ugh...that's something I really didn't want my neighbors much less many others knowing about.

Crazy stuff, I'm going to end it at that...It's been a year...why do people listen to other people? Why don't they find out and judge for themselves? Why do they listen to rumors and gossip? Why do they believe it?

[2cadifference]

Dec. 11, 2009 at 4:46 PM

DANG...if you aren't all crazy at the bus stop who the hell cares? Some people need to get something called a life. Let it roll off your back.

[mouse1085]

Dec. 11, 2009 at 6:18 PM

that cop really overstepped his bounds, and why he felt the need to spread all the bad news he thought he found is beyond me.  Some people just take joy in other people's misery. You clearly made a better situation for your daughter, and years ago, many extended families lived together. In my opinion, if all the parties have healthy relationships, everyone benefits.  I'm not saying you all have to get along all the time, but as long as you respect each other, it may be the best thing for your family.

[RachelleNH]

Dec. 12, 2009 at 9:33 AM

Thanks guys...It's really been bothering me. I could never treat other people like this..I don't understand why..I'm thinking they're bored or unhappy with themselves..that's the only way I could explain it!

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