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How To NOT Answer a Question
- Dec 14, 2009 at 9:49 AM
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If you actually have a real answer for a question, don't answer it. There is no point. You will have about 20 anons comment and attack you, without actually having a point. They can't argue with you, so they will call you arrogant, ignorant, stupid and make comments ABOUT you. When you try to explain yourself, they will attack you again, and attack you for trying to answer their comment. They can't argue your point! They can't even bother to use their screen name. Just hit anonymous, and blab about how much you suck.
You know what? I don't lie to my kids. I don't understand why this is difficult to believe. When a child asks what happened to grandpa, the answer IS he was sick and he died. Because that's what happened! Anyone who sits down and tells a six year old "Well, first, grandpa started smoking every day, then he got COPD, and then his lungs filled with fluid and he suffocated to death" is crazy. And no one would do that! Grandpa did get sick, and then he died. This is the truth. A conversation might follow, but lots of kids are happy with that. They might ask "will I get sick, too?" That's what I asked at 3 when my grandpa died. And my mom said "Everyone gets sick sometimes, but most of the time, you get better. We eat good food and stay healthy." Something to that effect. I guess some might consider that a lie of omission. I don't. I think it's the truth, without a million details, made simple for a small child. So, if you'd like to comment on how everyone lies, and that I'm just an idiot who will lie later to my kids, please do so on my journal, where you don't have the option of appearing anonymous. I will be happy to talk about it, without calling you names or stupid. Perhaps you have an excellent reason. I'm sure they exist. Perhaps you've got different perspective. I'd love to hear it. I can tell you for me, I plan to discipline my children for white lies. Since, as a parent, it is my job to set the example, much to my dismay, I will choose not to tell white lies as well. I think being honest with kids is important, and I think that when you set the example that lying isn't necessary, you lay the groundwork for NOT sitting around the table listening to Billy try to explain why it was okay for him to lie, just in this certain situation. (Obviously, this topic is what I was trying to discuss on the answers, but just got attacked. I deleted my answers, because they were just trying to prove I lied, not bother discuss whether lying to a child is appropriate or not.)
I find that I enjoy debate on answers or group posts, when the people post with their names. A lot of times I don't agree, but I do try to see where the other one is coming from. I find that when people use their name, they have a point that they want understood, a real one. I have learned a lot on this site, but I learn the most from people I don't agree with. It's like Santa. I don't do it, but I am able to understand why a lot of others do. I might not agree with their reasons, but I do understand.
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Oh, she was rich, lol. I am actually referring to a different question, shockingly. The anons are everywhere! :) I deleted all my responses, which elicited a bunch of "see, she lies, she deleted her posts!" No, I don't. I just realize that you can't argue with stupid, and if you bring the argument to a place where people have to post under their names... you get a REAL discussion rather than a bunch of idiots en masse.
But, yeah, in my house, we teach my example. I definitely did not respect my dad's do as I say not as I do routine. I want better for my kids. Heck, I want better for myself! I want to become a better person, the kind of person I'm raising my kids to be, you know?
"i agree that you explain things to kids in a way they understand..and that i doesn't mean you are lying.. you are giving it to them on thier level."
They think this is lying because you're not giving every single detail. Isn't that a hoot. They will make something up and blatantly lie to their kids, but argue that my answer isn't close enough to the truth because I didn't describe what I was wearing or some other lie of omission. Uh huh.
LOLOLOL that's funny that she was trolling on another question interesting.. or maybe it was someone esle with the same agenda though i really doubt it. LOL. she was adamant i was going to lie to my kids and said i do lie.. LOLOLOL i was like. sure YOU k now me that's why u can say that.. LOL...
yes you can't argue with stupid.
and i agree that do as i say and not as i do is a cop out
lololololol funny she used the same line on me about omission. LOL.
i could get real blatant and say to my kid... you stink go take a bath... but i won't because i'm not tryin to hurt my child. i will tell my kids.. it's bath time...
You liar you!
Hear, hear. FUcking idiots.
nak, or i'd join ranting
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lololol. i think i was in that same stupid post bieng told i will lie to my daughter. See these people lie to thier kids so they can't imagine that there is a single person who will not lie to thier kids. It's not an easy task to find ways to explain the truth to kids in a way that they understand...however it's way easier than lieing and then later have your kid tell you, you lied to them. I've seen this happen so many times with other families. example.. my aunt she always teaches her kids to lie for her.. but when it comes to lieing for themselves.. then they can't do that and its a huge problem... but you taught them how to lie so here is a famous lie she's taught the kids... you call her house and she looks at the caller id, has the child pick up the phone and tell the person she is not at home and she left her cell phone. When infact she is right there cellphone in hand. THIS IS A LIE.. one the kids know is a lie...and one you train them to lie about. my aunt doesn't see the irony in it. She is a liar... so of course she can't see anyting wrong with it.. as long as the kids don't turn around and lie to her.. then she hates a liar. LOL. go figure.
in that question and answer.. i said something like.... i was leaving cause i needed to tend to other things...then i saw a comment immediately after saying something to me..so i stayed and answered it.. infact there were a couple of comments.. well i got the see YOU lie..buisness.. that anon troll which is probably someone we know ... had nothing better to do. She's a liar who beleives in selling lies to her kids in the name of a holy holiday.. that is the worst of some kinds lies. LOLOLOL.
my husband stresses two things in my house with my daughter.. no hitting and no decieving... and we have to work on making that possible.. through any means necessary.
i agree that you explain things to kids in a way they understand..and that i doesn't mean you are lying.. you are giving it to them on thier level.
i will not lie to my kid and tell my kids.. santa brought him gifts after flying through the sky with riendeer just to see a glow on her face.. i can see a glwo on her face from simply saying.. Here is this for you...end of story.
- Aasiyah
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