Hey buddy you did it!

[bdgirl]

Hubby has really F# up us financially. He has kept a lot of it secret to me. Now he is depressed and creditors are calling. When I have tried to ask him about our financial situation before he tells me not to worry about it or that he doesn't want to talk about it b/c it upsets him and he doesn't want to get upset right now. He says he wants to talk about it now but he gets nasty with me. I try to speak supportive to him that we will get through this and he verbally attacks me.

He was mad at me last night b/c I couldn't give him attention. I had to fix dinner, get our daughter around to perform at the high school basket ball game, and clean up the dinner dishes. I didn't know what time when the performance was but we were to meet there at 6:30. She didn't perform until ten minutes till 8. We came right home after the performance and he was all huffy at me. He asked me why I didn't come home after she performed and I told him we did.

When he gets needy with me, he also gets very nasty to me. When starts the nastiness with me, I get away from him b/c I will not let him treat me so disrespectfully. And he just gets madder b/c I won't put up with him treating me that way.

How am I to help when he doesn't give me all the information but still expects me to come up with solutions.