What do I do now?!

[one4now]

OK my husband and I are dual military and we have been together for 3 years and married for two in February. I have recently told him I wanted a divorce because I don't love him anymore. ---Now we are in marriage counseling... Not to mention I am seeking a therapist for my PTSD. We have a 15 month old as well... If you do the math I got pregnant before we were married... I was the one to rush the marriage because A) we were already engaged B) the military wouldn't move us together unless we were married C) I thought it was what were were suppose to do since we had already been engaged and all.  We have lived separately all of our relationship until after the baby was born.... We should have lived together longer and really known each others ins and outs.... He is so hard headed... I told him I wanted  a divorce and he smothered me by doing everything that I had been complaining about him not doing and wanting my approval. I told him he is doing the right things just the WRONG time. I already have it in my head that I want a divorce but he doesn't seem to get it. He is still clinging on hope that the counseling will change my mind... What do I do!?!

[daye62]

Dec. 19, 2009 at 5:05 PM

I have been where you are,dual military couple,wanting a divorce and all,complete with child.So I have one question for you: why are you shocked that he has hope when you are participating in marriage counselling?And why do you call him the hard head when he is willing to try?Honey,think long and hard about just how difficult your life is going to get and how much this will harm your child,and it will harm your child.I had no idea how much my life would change and how badly it would hurt to comfort my child as she grieved the end of her life as she knew it.A military life makes being a single mom almost impossible and it will become very difficult for your ex to spend time with your child.That's all I've got.I wish you the best.