Step kid

[alimon]

I need to vent!!

On Saturday SD21 tells her dad that she isn't going to make it to our house for Christmas after telling us that she would... This normally wouldn't upset me so much but this is a special X-mas. Its DD's first X-mas. And SD hasn't been around since DD came home from the hospital.

The on Sunday at DH's family's party we all find out that her cousin and his girlfriend are having a baby and she is all excited about it and is making all kinds of plans. And want to be in its life 100%. Then Aunt Jane took Dd so I could eat. Then SD goes over and Takes DD from her. Well DD is crying and screaming so I go over and take her from SD " Ok, I 'll take her now." and I went and feed her.. While feeding her DH comes in and yells at me about taking DD from SD. and How bad it looked to the family. and without thinking these words flew out of my mouth: "Taylor doesn't get to act like she cares about Winter in front of everyone, when she doesn't care about her any other time." Wrong thing to say!

Then its time to do the gift exchange: I spent a month doing DH's family tree and getting it together for each indiviual, Including SD. Well everyone was happy about is but 3 people. SD, her counsin Troy, and Troy's mom. Troy and his mom not happy cause I included his half sister (who he doesn't concider his sibling)(which I didn't know till last night)). and Taylor didn't say thank you.

Well I guess Taylor told her dad that she liked it.  and on the way home we fought about how mean I was to want a thank you and for taking my crying child from SD. and how his family felt sorry for him that i am such a bitch.

Why should l let someone who doesn't want anything to do with me and DD hold her and try to act like she is happy to be a big sister???

Yes it hurts me that she doesn't want to be part of my family and maybe that has a little to do with how I treat her. and why I treat her the way I do.

What am I supposed to do??