So here it is, Christmas Eve Day, I'm sitting at the kitchen table and my grandmother is baking cookies and yeast rolls...And all she has done since I woke up this morning is bitch and complain about how my Mom and brother are not coming home today b/c of his gf and everyone's work schedule. So now she's taking it out on everyone else and I'm almost in tears. It sucks that I feel like I have to chose between her and my mom. Then if you even mention anyone in the family thats not on her, my grandmother's, APPROVED list to talk to then your a traitor to her.

I feel like even though she's gotten used to the idea that my DF and I are expecting before our wedding that its still a disgrace to the family's name and won't mention it to anyone.  No excitement for either milestone event.

I'm at a loss as to what to do. I know that I need to be able to move out soon but not sure how soon that will be possible. Tony and I are still working out budgets and how to make both of our hetic schedules work. We're both in school, he'll graduate in August most likely and I'll have another year or so before I can graduate with an Associates in Bus. Mgt., and we both work. I work in retail for the time being and Tony just got full time status at McD's working the overnight shift, which for where he works gets very busy on friday and saturday nights due to a dance club across the street.

More to come later - right now I'm off to work!

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Dec. 24, 2009 at 2:43 PM

oh honey i soo feel for you. remember this, she is your grandmother. she isnt going to be here for forever. and she is a different generation with different morals and ideals. Be strong and stand your own ground with her without being mean or judgemental. Love her while you can cause she is not going to be there for forever. ya know? it hurts but you cantry and understand that she is just from a different era.

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Dec. 24, 2009 at 2:43 PM

Hugs and congrats on your upcoming bundle of joy!

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Dec. 24, 2009 at 6:00 PM Put Christmas music on and start singing to the carols.

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