For some peeps C-secs are great!

[Saya]

Okay, I'm SOOO tired of the Evil C-section posts.

Most people don't reply to my posts, but honestly at this point, I don't care, I just have to speak out.

I had two c-secs. 1st one not planned, 2nd planned.

My first labor was a nightmare; I had terrible L& D nurses and my obgyn wasnt on call so I had to do with the doc on call.  I almost bit the nurse I was in so much pain.  The epidural didn't work worth crap, and I was tied to the bed because of it.  I had nurses telling me my contractions "were'n't that bad, what are you complaining about?" and much, much worse.  My epi wasn't in right and nobody would believe me that the dripping I felt wasn't sweat. 

finally after 15 hours of no progress, I contracted "chorioamnioitis" and that was the excuse they gave me for the c-sec I was begging for.  They had to pull my cervix open to get to three centimeters, and that's all I ever got to. 

I was a mess.  A complete out of control mess, with a bunch of nurses and doctors who didn't believe I was in so much pain.  I was a big baby. 

Finally after my c-sec, I woke up still in pain, screaming "why the fuck am I still in pain?" the recovery nurse said something nasty and when they transfered me to maternity they basically dropped me in the bed.  They had had enough of me.  Fuckers.

The maternity ward- a whole different ball game; my pain was controlled by a PCA (patient controlled anesthesia) My baby was with me, we nursed and nursed and nursed.  It was beautiful.  I had fabulous nurses who helped me breastfeed and talked to me about the benefits of BFing.  My baby and me bonded instantly and my milk came in right away.

I was home in three days, and although they warned me against heavy lifting and stairs, my pain was controlled and I was up and down those stairs like nobody's business.

Fast foward to my second pregnancy-  talked to my new obgyn about the risks and bennies of a vbac, and I decided that I never wanted to have such a horrible experience with L&D again - I'm just no good at tolerating pain, and I have a low pain threshold- two very different things.

So I opted for a planned c-sec.  My baby was born in a beautiful way, we knew when she'd be here, we had family come in from far away,  everything was taken care of.  

My recovery from the c-sec was the same- no problems- I heal quickly.  In three days I was wandering around Toys R Us with a newborn in my arms, looking for stuff to buy.  We bonded beautifully, my milk came in just as ferociously as it had the second time ( I went from a small "B" to a "DD")  I was a little older so the recovery was completely as quick, but within a week I felt fine and needed no more pain meds.

My point is, that just because it isn't the natural way, just because it isn't vaginal and drug free, doesn't make the experience diminished.

People who go on and on about how their way is the only way, or the best way, must look at why they are so, so, so incredibly stuck to their ideas.  Why is your way the only way that's good? 

All I can say, is that in the end if you and your baby are alive and well, then that is all that counts.

You vbac nazis can bash all you want, but really I think it's your own insecurities that lead you into a pattern of acting and telling other women that their experiences aren't as good as yours. 

I hope that as you mature into motherhood, as it challenges you in ways you never expected, you learn to respect your sisters and respect the way they give birth and raise their children, with the knowledge that there is no "one right way" to give birth, feed or raise a child. 

Thank you for listening if you got this far.

 Btw, I eat tofu and meat, I believe in extended breastfeeding, and attachment parenting

[kendra1417]

Dec. 30, 2009 at 11:06 PM

Thank you!! I have had two c sections , soon to have a third. My first was a nightmare recovery wise my second not so bad. In the first case it was planned because my DS's head was HUGE and so was the rest of him. The second I was gonna do a VBAC but couldn't cause the baby's heartrate was dropping. But any which way you look at it I've got two awesome little kids.

[mtnmama111]

Feb. 17, 2010 at 6:02 PM

I am so glad that the c-sec was good for you.. my experience was completely opposite- I had a doc trying to force me into an emergency section.. when I was obstinate, he *gave* me a push.. lololol I pushed sooo hard with that one push that he had to let me birth naturally (my goal).. and then still had the gall to tell me to *stop pushing* for his own comfort- I thought f'ck NO!!! to myself- and kept pushing (WHO tells a woman to stop pushing mid-push with the baby crowning??!!!) and got her out so quickly that he had to stop what he was doing and CATCH HER as she SHOT OUT of me and almost HIT THE FLOOR!!!!! I did have a pain shot and the birth was induced so I was tied to bed also- who does that to a woman??? but ultimately I was able to *get my birth my way*!!! and finish.. I'm glad you were able to accomplish the same feat, albeit in a differenet manner...

[roachiesmom]

Mar. 12, 2010 at 4:52 PM

Wow, Saya, I {heart} my c-sections, too.  It really worked for me, and my experience doesn't sound very different from yours.  And, 1st unplanned, second very, very planned.

[my5monsters]

Sep. 23, 2010 at 4:50 PM

:) I haven't been on cafemom in almost a year because I got sick and tired of all the breastfeeding and birthing nazi's.... I have never, in all my years of being a mother, came across a bigger group of mothers who judge another mother for the way she brings her child into this world, or how she feeds her child once here....

I say bravo to you for writing this post. At the end of the day it's NO ONES business how you brought YOUR child into this world! Just as it's NO ONES business how I chose to feed mine.