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I wanna cry...
- Jan 2, 2010 at 8:37 PM
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I dont know what im doing wrong.. my husbands just so mean. Last night i cried all night because we've been been fighting about the fact i have my tounge pierced and he tells me he hates it i ask him why n he says just because... well then we really started fighting n he said "Fat girls dont look good with there tounges pierced" n something about trying to look sexy when its not , i cut him off and went to cry... Ive only gone up like one maybe 2 sizes since ive had Marcus.
Tonight We where having a GREAT night watching movies and he asks if i can go make him a grill cheese, i make it when i come back up hes taking a shower so i set the grill cheese on the bed n look for movies online he comes in takes a bit of it and throws it on the floor and says"it tastes like shit, what the fuck you dont know how to make grill cheese right" ... then he says why u on the computer i told him i was looking for a movie n he says "fine pick out a movie, all the movies you pick out suck, if i dont like it ill just fucken walk out of the room."
I dunno maybe its just me why do i piss him off all the time , i spent all day cleaning and cooking a chinese dinner while he sat on the computer and hes just so mean.. maybe i am fat.. maybe i do everything wrong ... i dunno...
He got pissed walked off, saying i try to take control of everything...
He found the comp program to buy and download movies, he bought the cord to hookmy comp to the tv and i was like wow and started getting into it now hes saying becacuse i wanted to pick out a movie im trying to take it over...
So i guess if i take interst in anything he likes he feels like im taking it over i asked to pick out ONE movie!, we use to geocatch (looking for stuff in the woods with a gps), now we dont because he found the site and I thought it was so cool, i made my own screen name , because he had one so i wanted one of my own and I wasnt working at the time so me and my friend went to look for one on our own... man was that wrong to do he was so pissed! he said i was taking it over and he didnt wanna do it with me anymore...
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I agree w/ PP 100% - He's an emotionally/verbally abusive dick - and he's already got you in that "abused wife" mentality, thinking you deserve it. No, honey, you deserve to be treated with respect... my DF developed a bad habit of talking to me that way... I didnt want to leave him (I had been a single mom for a while and we had just had another baby... ) So I grew a backbone. DF just didnt realize that he was being an asshole. Can I PM you to give you some examples of what happened and how I *fixed* him.
Keep in mind that some men cannot be fixed... and if that's the case let him find some other woman to walk all over
Aurorabunny is accurate in her discription. What you do from this point forward is up to you.
BTW, MEN DON'T CHANGE. He will always be a dick.
What a jackass. He sounds like an immature child constantly looking for attention.
My dad is like that to my mom and has been like that for the past 32 years. Im gonna have to agree with everyone else and say your husband is a mean person... And likely will not change. Do you want to spend the rest of your life blaming yourself for things that he gets pissed off about? Youre not gonna like yourself if you let it continue. I if he isnt open to anger management counciling or something of the sort, then its gonna get worse and you will hate life and your kid will see that and hate life too. =(
I agree with everyone else here. You don't deserve this and you need to to make a change before it gets worse. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for Marcus. If he treats you this way, he'll treat your son the same way.
I'm sorry, but he is a complete and total immature piece of crap. YOU are doing nothing wrong. He is just a stupid prick.
You need to leave. I'm not even going to suggest counseling, because I promise you the only relationship there is you obeying him out of fear of being hurt.
Jan. 3, 2010 at 12:44 PM
Jan. 2, 2010 at 8:42 PM
Maybe you married a total dick.
Sorry to be so blunt, but it makes me sad to see a woman second guessing herself when the problem is obviously not yours in the first place. I think the only weight you need to lose is HIM--No one deserves to be talked to like that. aurorabunny
Agreed.
Unless he wants to go to counseling to learn how to be a better Husband and to communicate without VERBAL and EMOTIONAL abuse -- then, I can't see you gaining anything from remaining in your marriage. Life is hard enough without someone abusing you on a daily basis. You DON'T have to accept being treated the way he is treating you.
I am sorry he is making you feel so badly, he sounds very immature and hateful. NO one deserves to be treated like that or talked to like that. :(
A*S*S*H*O*L*E. NEVER, feel like you might deserve that...YOU DON'T!
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Maybe you married a total dick.
Sorry to be so blunt, but it makes me sad to see a woman second guessing herself when the problem is obviously not yours in the first place. I think the only weight you need to lose is HIM--No one deserves to be talked to like that.
- aurorabunny
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