This IS my dream life...

[Ravensong]

Ever since I was a little girl, I always wanted to be a Mommy. I always knew I would want to stay at home with my children and whenever I was asked, " What do you want to be when you grow up?" I could only ever answer-a Mother, of course! To me it wasn't that I didn't have goals, or wasn't smart enough. I LOVE to learn and still continue to research a wide range of subjects and read voraciously. We can afford for me to stay at home. My daughter does not want for anything and I do not have a lot of personal expenses. My Fiance agrees with me that it is the best for Lilly to have me here with her and to take care of the household as well. I am not on any kind of assistance and I don't have any credit card debt to speak of.

And yet....

No one ever seems to understand why I do not work.

It seems to me that the majority of people I run into look at me like I have two heads when I say I am a sahm with no plans to ever work outside the home. I have some dancing hobbies and I am a Reiki Master who plans to have a small studio out of the house, but that is more to help others and continue to learn about healing than to contribute financially. And yet I ALWAYS hear from others 'helpful' tips on how I can be finding a job. My Fiancé's parents have retired early, selling a used car business that his dad started years ago. His father cannot fathom why we are living off a single income when I could be helping us become rich. Rich? I do not want to be rich. That's not to say if money fell out of the sky, I'd ignore it lol. But I guess I just don't see how missing out on being there everyday for my daughter is worth padding the bank accounts for. To me being a mother is enough, and is the most important thing I can do with my life. Didn't the women who came before me work very hard so that I can have a CHOICE as to whether or not I wanted to stay home? I am not at all in anyway saying those who work are bad, but it is our choice as women and mothers now as to what we want to do with our lives. I'll take the smaller budget and no chance of ever winning the nobel peace prize anyday as long as I get to be home here with her. This IS my dream life:D

[Fordmomma]

Jan. 7, 2010 at 2:50 PM

I'm glad you can stay home with you little girl. I wish the same I don't wish to be rich, but needing health insurance makes me have to work. Someday I will get those looks too (hopefully) I'm happy for any lady who gets to spend time with their kids and maybe a little jealous to but not in a spiteful way. I said the same thing to one of my teachers when I was little and she looked very disappointed by my reply. I agree women fought for the right to work not for it to be mandatory.

[Ravensong]

Jan. 7, 2010 at 3:00 PM

It's taken a lot of guts for me to stand up to everyone for what I want. I'm lucky that I have a fiance who is so career driven and thus taking care of the medical needs. I hope someday soon you'll get to be a sahm too. That puts a nice new perspective on it for me though... I should be feeling thankful for the looks in a way, lol. I hope you stay warm today in our little mini-blizzard!

(Original Poster)