Never before have I noticed that I didn't really have any female friends, and the ones that I did have either contacted me very rarely or I'd have to contact them. It didn't seem to matter to me that I didn't know any women my age that were in the same stage of their life as I was. That is, until I had a child.

My son will be 14 months old tomorrow. I can tell that he wants to play with other children, but I don't know anyone with kids nearby! The one person that I did know changed her phone # after many, many playdates that she flaked out of! her Daughter is just 1 month younger than my son and they would play well together... but she has family in the area with kids around the same age- so she doesn't need a playdate with my son because she has a built in playmate pretty much all the time.

Other women that I meet with kids about his age say that they are looking for someone to have a playdate with, take my number, decline to share theirs and then never call! I don't know what is the problem. I mean- do I smell or something?? Come on! Why is it that I don't have friends around my age (or the ones I do have rarely call)?

My family is at least an hour away from us, some of them more like 4-8 hours. My younger sisters have kids, one is even just a year older than my son and the other is a year younger than he is! But again, they are hours away! Also, they have jobs. I am a SAHM. My son needs to have some kind of interaction with children! He only has my hubby and me to mimic, to develop his social skills, and that has been okay. But he is mimicking adult mannerisms. I want him to be able to be a child!I never got to be a kid as the eldest of 10 kids, I had to be the psuedo-mom. I want my baby to be just that, a baby!

I have tried going to play places, parks, the zoo and the mall to meet other moms with kids, but the ones that are there are with other moms! If they talk to me, or seem interested in talking I chat them up, but no one seems interested in meeting regularly. I don't know where else to go!

Any advice would be great because I am lost and getting depressed.

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Jan. 7, 2010 at 8:58 PM

Gymboree has playtimes, it costs money, but it might be worth it if you don't know anyone around!

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Jan. 7, 2010 at 9:21 PM

Have you tried any local churches, they have Mommy Day off care sometimes at some churches, and there are day care centers you can let him stay at for just a few hours a day to have some interactions with other children. Have you yourself thought of going back to work just to get out of the house and do something for yourself? Do you have a Motessori School there, they are really great to use, my daughter had her daughter in this school, it is a private school, but she learned so much and made many friends, and yes it costs, but it was worth it. She really did very well in Montessori. I hope this helps. LoL Mom

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Jan. 16, 2010 at 4:56 AM

Have you been to the Children's Museum, Women's Resource Center, or the Library (usually offers great entertainment for kids free)? As the oldest child myself, I understand and admire your desire to encourage your child to be a child. Continue taking him to the park. Usually when you're a regular, eventually you'll start noticing others who are also. True friendship takes time. Good luck!

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Aug. 15, 2010 at 4:10 PM

Girl, you and I are totally on the same boat!!!! I have a 2 year old son that is ALWAYS wanting to play with kids, but unfortunately I dont have any friends that have kids or have a clue as to what motherhood is all about. Most of the time, I feel so lonely and feel bad for Clef (my son) because though Im TONS of fun-lol- he needs kids his own age. I live in Van Nuys, so if you're ever looking for a play date, Im here! I'll take your number and call ya', promise! =) even give you mine! hehehe 

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