So let me get this straight...... it is okay for a woman and 'choose' not to have a baby even though she is in fact pregnant, and couples should be able to 'choose to marry regardless of gender? but it is not okay for me to 'choose' to leave my child in the car while i pump gas? or spank? or move him to the next car seat when he meets the minimal requirements?

this seems a little hypocritical to me. there are so many conflicting beliefs out there and people follow whatever 'floats their boat'. but they often conflict with one another. i would think that someone who says they are pro-choice would endorse that in every aspect of their lives.

And what does it matter what someone else chooses to do witht their child. now i understand that there needs to be interfence when a child is being abused or neglected, but come on. ranting and raving because someone leaves their child in the car for a few minutes? hours, yes. by all means rant and rave. but a few minutes? i guess i should be glad there are so many perfect mothers out there to monitor for the mistakes us less than perfect ones make. 

i don't agree with abortion, in fact it makes sick to my stomach. i don't agree with same sex marriage. it's against the will of God. but when i voice these things i am told i am a bigot and a hater. well, we all are then because everyone seems to criticise people for their choices and decisions. does anyone else see this. it's frustrating. do we have nothing better to do than examine and find fault in other people?

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Jan. 12, 2010 at 12:45 PM

There is definitely a double standard, one by which folks live and one by which they want the rest of us to live.  I agree with you!

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Jan. 12, 2010 at 1:08 PM

I personally would leave my son in the car while I pump gas but not when I go in and pay... I used my debit card when I was at the pump to avoid going in and paying when my son was young.  I do think it's unsafe- but I probably live in a higher crime area than you do... Detroit in fact.

On your opinion of same sex marriage and abortion- yes is it against the will of God.  Your God- our God-  But you can't hold others to your spiritual standard.  It is taken as bigotry and many (but not you, I know you to be a sweet person) use it to hate, which makes their actions not Christian.  I honestly do believe if we take choices to do wrong away, we take away the ability to turn to God when we do wrong.  God does forgive, and He does the choosing, but that's not for us. 

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Jan. 13, 2010 at 9:39 AM

i wasn't trying to hold someone to my standard, only stating that there are double standars. others are allowed to say whatever they want with no accountability, while i and others of my convictions are made to feel like scum. just aking the point.

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Jan. 19, 2010 at 9:55 AM

And some other people are A**es, can't forget that.  There are always people out there that make themselves feel better by making others feel like crap.  It's not really a double standard... I'm not sure if my point is coming across or not... try not to take crappy people personally.  Just pray for them.

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