Stop being Ugly, Stay at Home Moms!

[HoustonMom22]

For the last 5 years, I worked as an Interior Designer in Houston. I met with big named builders, spent my time in 6 inch heels and was part of a team of ladies that put a lot of focus on appearance. Being ‘cute' was the name of the game. Then, one month after returning to work from maternity leave I was laid off.  Enter the days of sweat pants, showers every other day and washing my hair only once every 3 days because what's the point? I'm not going anywhere.

I was not the only one. One day, I looked around me at moms in the grocery store who were wearing college sweatshirts and house shoes. Their sons had on shiny new Nikes, and their daughters were wearing stylish baby dresses and hair bows. I myself was in my husband's Nike t-shirt (3 sizes too big), hair in a pony tail with 2 inch roots and a pair of year old running shoes.  With a cool brown and pink, modern diaper bag I realized that my diaper bag had more style than me. I used to design homes for some of the largest builders in Texas. I used to think pony tails were for...well, ponies.

I vowed at that moment to stop the madness! Staying at home does not make me less of a woman. If I want to take a shower, and the baby wants to play...then she can play on the bathroom floor while I take care of mommy. Sometimes that means she is beating on the shower door the entire time, or worse hanging on my boob while I am drying my hair. But I will get dressed (in clean clothes), I will put on my makeup (at least some mascara and lipstick), and I will not forget that before I was a mom to Rebekah and Bobby I was a designer, a wife, a person. I make hair appointments and tell (don't ask) my husband that I am going. I spend my last $100 on a cute outfit because once the bills are paid and the kids are fed....I am important too.

In the long run, I'm a better mom for it. Now, if the neighborhood kids knock on the door I'm not wishing the kids will be quiet. Instead I open the door, and I go with them out to play. If my husband calls and tells me not to cook dinner because he's taking us out, I am not in tears because it's been a week since I washed my hair and I have nothing to wear.

So, get up...wash your hair and join me in looking cute again!

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[bearsbabies]

Jan. 13, 2010 at 10:50 AM

lol i was just talking to my husband about this! telling him the exact thing of course he is supportive lol. I have been taking baby steps though. still wearing pj's almost all day but I have been good about doing my hair and wearing my makeup