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MY DAUGHTER IS JUST LIKE YOUR DAUGHTER
- Jan 17, 2010 at 1:26 PM
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MY DAUGHTER IS JUST LIKE YOUR DAUGHTER HER FAVORITE COLOR IS PINK, SHE LOVES TO PAINT, SHE LOVES PB&J SANDWICHES, SHE LOVES WHEN I LET HER STAND ON THE BACK OF THE SHOPPING CART AND DRIVE FAST, SHE LOVES BUGGING HER BROTHERS, SHE LIKES TO HELP COOK DINNER. MY DAUGHTER IS JUST LIKE MANY 6 YEAR OLD LITTLE GIRLS EXCEPT SHE IS DEAF. THEN I WONDER, IF SHE IS JUST LIKE YOUR DAUGHTERS WHY DOES SHE GET TREATED DIFFERENT SOMETIMES?! . I REMEMBER THE FIRST TIME MY DAUGHTER WAS TREATED "DIFFERENT" WE WERE AT THE PARK SHE WAS THREE YEARS OLD, DUE TO HER PROFOUND HEARING LOSS SHE AT THE TIME HAD VERY LITTLE SPEECH AND I OVERHEARD A LITTLE GIRL BOUT 6 YEARS OLD TELL HER MOM "ILL I DONT WANT TO PLAY WITH THAT GIRL SHE TALK UGLY" THE MOM SAID "OK GO PLAY SOMEWHERE ELSE THEN". YEAH I KNOW THE GIRL WAS ONLY SIX BUT WHAT IS THE MOMS EXCUSE FOR NOT TAKING A MOMENT TO EXPLAIN TO HER DAUGHTER THAT SOME PEOPLE ARE "DIFFERENT". SO YESTERDAY I WAS AT A PARTY AND THEY HAD ONE OF THOSE BOUNCE HOUSE THINGS AND THERE IS THIS GROUP OF LIKE MAYBE SIX 10 YEAR OLD GIRLS AND THERE IS MY DAUGHTER EAGERLY TRYING TO "FIT IN" WITH THE OLDER GIRLS AND I HEAR ONE TELL THE OTHER "WE DONT HAVE TO PLAY WITH HER SHE IS DEAF" JUST WRITING THAT BRINGS TEARS TO MY EYES I JUST WANTED TO JUMP MY FAT ASS IN THAT BOUNCE HOUSE AND SCRATCH ALL THEM UP I AM LIKE A LIONESS WANTING TO PROTECT HER CUB. I WAS FILLED WITH SO MUCH RAGE BUT MORE THEN THAT A DEEP DEEP SADNESS NOT ONLY FOR MY DAUGHTER BUT FOR THOSE SO UNAWARE KIDS THAT LOST OUT ON A GREAT OPPORTUNITY TO GET TO KNOW A VERY SWEET LITTLE GIRL NO I DONT WANT YOU TO FORCE YOUR KID TO PLAY WITH MY KID JUST PLEASE HELP EXPLAIN TO THEM NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME. MAYBE WE NEED TO INFORM OUR KIDS THEY WILL ENCOUNTER PEOPLE IN LIFE WHO WILL BE "DIFFERENT" BUT THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE AND HAVE FEELING JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.
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Oh Honey, I so feel for you. My son is 7 and has Autism. He has reached the age where other children notice how different he is. He will struggle with being the "weird, quirky kid" for the rest of his life. We don't do parties outside of our adult network because, frankly, I just can't take the way others act toward my son.
The good result of all this is that it has made my daughter (5 y.o.) a beautiful person. If she met your daughter, she would go out of her way to play with her and make her feel welcome. I am sure there are others like my daughter out there. You and your daughter will find them. Then those who don't accept, don't understand, or just don't care won't matter anymore.
What a beautiful girl you have!
You have a very important role to play as a parent of a child with special needs. You get to educate others to all the wonderful things about your child, and teach them how to communicate with her so that they can know her as well. You can do it, because you love her that much. Remember to praise other children when they look beyond the differences and include your daughter. I've found that it helps a great deal.
While our children have different needs (I have a little girl, also six, who has autism), I do understand how frustrating it is to watch our children be teased, misunderstood, ridiculed or just left out. However, we do have this unique opportunity to be "ambassadors" in a way, and help open the eyes of others to how really special our kids are.
Hang in there, mama!
You are very lucky to have such a beautiful daughter, and I think she is very lucky to have a wonderful Momma like you. I have always taught my boys that people are different, but WE ARE ALL PEOPLE. Best of luck in the years to come.
She's beautiful! I'm sorry people are so stupid and unkind. She's lucky to have you as a mom.
All 3 of my kids were born 100% healthy & remain that way...... HOWEVER... "normal" not so much.... LOL! Joey (my 5 year old) has slight signs of OCD. He can't have dirty hands & if he does, he IMMEDIATELY washes them.... Mackenzie (my 10 year old) is going on 17 & will roll her eyes at me in public. Kaylee (my 1 year old) makes some of the WEIRDEST sounds & her VERY FIRST word (thanks to her daddy) was shit! LOL! We ALL have things about us that make us "different". Your daughter is ABSOLUTELY adorable! Hold her close & love her unconditionally! Life lessons come to all of us in MANY shapes & colors, at some point (unfortunately for her, these lessons start young). As much as OTHER parents SHOULD BE teaching their children that there are kids who are "different", you can also take the opportunity to teach your daughter that there are "ignorant" (for lack of better words) parents in the world, who don't teach their children MANNERS!
Keep it up mama! Think of GOOD come-backs for the parents & also for harmless lessons for the other children! If their own parents won'
t teach them, maybe you can get it across to them, somehow! :-)
Stephanie
She is very beautiful. I am sorry that kids and adults can be so cruel.
When I was 14 my best friend (and her sister) was deaf. She pronounced her words different, yes. And when we had sleep overs and I was talking to her she'd take her hearing aid out and go to sleep and I'd be talking to myself!
My current best friend's husband is deaf. He is a good sport, he writes things down if we cant get it after a few tries, but he knows we WANT to know what he is saying
My point is that your daughter will have friends and boyfriends (and then you'll wish they stayed away LOL) who dont care or even notice and life will go on, she will cry and love and laugh - isnt that what we all want?
That little 6 yr olds mom should be slapped. She should have taken the time to allow her daughter to know that people are different in ALL ways and that its okay, we are all human and that makes us the same inside.
My own daughter has a growth problem, she is nearly 10 and the size of a 5 or 6 yr old and has to occasionally deal with others comments, we try to help her laugh about being small, 'cause there will always be ignorant people.
i'm sorry your daughter was treated badly. she is beautiful and if others are unwilling to accept her that's their loss.
Aww why are kids so mean ? She is beautiful little girl ! I am so sorry.
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I am sorry for your daughter. My son wears a protective helmet because he has epilepsy and he is made fun makes of all the time. He's 2 are you serious! It makes me mad too. Just remember she's special for a reason because god wanted her to be.
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